Piers Nivens
Don Juan
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I usually see a tie between doctors and police officers.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
bradd80 said:howard, I'd have to disagree with you on this on as I'm a lawyer and I find plenty of time to bang hot bishes. Mind you, I'm also tall, fit, and reasonably good looking so maybe this plays a part. But the hours issue definitely isn't a problem, where there's a will there's a way. If nothing else, there's always Friday and Saturday nights plus I'm always getting hooked up through friends and meeting women through social and networking events. Being a doctor or lawyer is definitely a plus, but I know lots of doctors and lawyers who are not that good looking or not very social and they're perpetually single so I think things like looks, fitness, dressing well, and having game count for a lot no matter what profession you're in.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Espi said:We have a guy here on SS who claims to be a police officer so maybe he'll weigh in on the discussion.
I think being a cop would draw a "love it or hate it" kind of deal from women.
I've personally had discussions with a few women who were married to policemen and they related the profession negatively--mainly due to the stress.
I'm told all the time that I look like a cop/military, and that's why several women said that they were attracted to me. That's the positive of being a policeman, I guess--the look, the authoritative personality, the ability to handle oneself in stressful situations, etc. It definitely takes a strong personality to be a police officer. I can see how woman would be attracted to that.