"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What Philosophy keeps you grounded when life gets difficult?

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What Philosophy Keeps You Grounded When Life Gets Difficult?

Stoicism, Buddhism, Christianity, the Bhagavad Gita, Islam, Taoism, or lessons learned through experience. What principles actually help you live better?

What gives you that sense of peace and calm through turbelence?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My own. Namely that our souls are eternal and this realm is a spiritual training ground. We are at the end of the world as we know it, and while things will continue to get worse there will be an inflection point where, unless you are an assh0le, they will get better than they were before.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What I tell myself :

Stop worrying about things out of your control and focus on the things you can control.

Take accountability for yourself and stop making excuses. The world doesn't give a sh!t how hard things are for you and it doesn't owe you a favor. You are the one who can change your life 1000x more than anyone or anything else. Embrace that.
 

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Prayer, meditation, reading the scriptures, chanting God's holy names, living a holy life and using your god given talents to help people, fasting, brisk walking, yoga, cold showers, quiet time and solitude, floor grounding by sitting and laying on the floor on a yoga matt, song writing and making a movie for social media. etc.
 
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