"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What Percentage of Your Girlfriends Came Back After Breakup?

What percentage of girlfriends came back after breakup?

  • 0%

    Votes: 2 9.1%
  • 1-25%

    Votes: 2 9.1%
  • 26-49%

    Votes: 3 13.6%
  • 50-74%

    Votes: 3 13.6%
  • 75-89%

    Votes: 3 13.6%
  • 90-99%

    Votes: 2 9.1%
  • 100%

    Votes: 7 31.8%

  • Total voters
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bigneil

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A) Count every girlfriend you ever had (who you dated at least 3 months).

B) Regardless of who ended it (statistically girls end most somehow), count how many came back to you and that you have sex with again (at least 3 months after the breakup)

What percentage came back? Divide the result of B by the result of A.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It doesn't look like you voted but yes I found a staggering percentage came back - no matter how ugly the breakup was (and let's face it, it's rarely pretty) - but after you are over them.

I think in the end we tend to mostly remember good memories.
 

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Good poll...I've always been curious about this. I think the longer you were together, the more likely she is to return.
 

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I think how it ends is a big factor. If one party cheated on the other it makes it easier for the other party to have the "you're dead to me I never want to see, speak, or be around you ever again" attitude.

If it ends out of anything less messy than that, the chance that both parties come to terms with their hatred for one another down the line is more likely and less ill feelings will be harbored.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Was together with my first love for 6 years, engaged, she left me. It's been 2+ years, not 1 word from her since she left.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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AlexDP said:
The stripper is gone, mate.
She Hates Me

Met a girl, thought she was grand
Fell in love found out first hand
Went well for a week or two
Then it all came unglued

In a trap, trip I can't grip
Never thought I'd be the one who'd slip
Then I started to realize
I was livin' one big lie

She fvckin' hates me
Trust, she fvckin' hates me
La la la love
I tried too hard and she tore my feelings
Like I had none and ripped them away

She was queen for about an hour
After that, shlt got sour
She took all I ever had
No sign of guilt, no feelin' bad no

(Repeat)

That's my story, as you see
Learned my lesson and so did she
Now it's over and I'm glad
'Cause I'm a fool for all I've said


(Puddle of Mudd, 2001)
 

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100% of the ones I broke up with came back. None of the ones that broke up with me reconsidered.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Leporello

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All but one...thouhg I'm usually the one to end it, not her.

I remember one came to my apartment and started taking her clothes off. I told her 'if you fvck you're going to feel bad tomorrow' she said 'I feel bad anyway, at least this way I'll get laid'.
 

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bigneil said:
It doesn't look like you voted but yes I found a staggering percentage came back - no matter how ugly the breakup was (and let's face it, it's rarely pretty) - but after you are over them.

I think in the end we tend to mostly remember good memories.
ok maybe another poll on what happens after the sex?

It seems likely that sex happens again - but is it just a one off thing?? (In my case so far)

Need a poll to see what percentage of different things happen eg. sex once/few times/ regularly/ get back into rel short/long......

also another for how long it takes for sex to happen after BU????
 
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