"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What Percentage of Your Girlfriends Came Back After Breakup?

What percentage of girlfriends came back after breakup?

  • 0%

    Votes: 2 9.1%

  • 1-25%

    Votes: 2 9.1%

  • 26-49%

    Votes: 3 13.6%

  • 50-74%

    Votes: 3 13.6%

  • 75-89%

    Votes: 3 13.6%

  • 90-99%

    Votes: 2 9.1%

  • 100%

    Votes: 7 31.8%
  • Total voters
    22
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A) Count every girlfriend you ever had (who you dated at least 3 months).

B) Regardless of who ended it (statistically girls end most somehow), count how many came back to you and that you have sex with again (at least 3 months after the breakup)

What percentage came back? Divide the result of B by the result of A.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It doesn't look like you voted but yes I found a staggering percentage came back - no matter how ugly the breakup was (and let's face it, it's rarely pretty) - but after you are over them.

I think in the end we tend to mostly remember good memories.
 
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Good poll...I've always been curious about this. I think the longer you were together, the more likely she is to return.
 
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I think how it ends is a big factor. If one party cheated on the other it makes it easier for the other party to have the "you're dead to me I never want to see, speak, or be around you ever again" attitude.

If it ends out of anything less messy than that, the chance that both parties come to terms with their hatred for one another down the line is more likely and less ill feelings will be harbored.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Was together with my first love for 6 years, engaged, she left me. It's been 2+ years, not 1 word from her since she left.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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AlexDP said:
The stripper is gone, mate.
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She Hates Me

Met a girl, thought she was grand
Fell in love found out first hand
Went well for a week or two
Then it all came unglued

In a trap, trip I can't grip
Never thought I'd be the one who'd slip
Then I started to realize
I was livin' one big lie

She fvckin' hates me
Trust, she fvckin' hates me
La la la love
I tried too hard and she tore my feelings
Like I had none and ripped them away

She was queen for about an hour
After that, shlt got sour
She took all I ever had
No sign of guilt, no feelin' bad no

(Repeat)

That's my story, as you see
Learned my lesson and so did she
Now it's over and I'm glad
'Cause I'm a fool for all I've said


(Puddle of Mudd, 2001)
 
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100% of the ones I broke up with came back. None of the ones that broke up with me reconsidered.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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All but one...thouhg I'm usually the one to end it, not her.

I remember one came to my apartment and started taking her clothes off. I told her 'if you fvck you're going to feel bad tomorrow' she said 'I feel bad anyway, at least this way I'll get laid'.
 
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bigneil said:
It doesn't look like you voted but yes I found a staggering percentage came back - no matter how ugly the breakup was (and let's face it, it's rarely pretty) - but after you are over them.

I think in the end we tend to mostly remember good memories.
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ok maybe another poll on what happens after the sex?

It seems likely that sex happens again - but is it just a one off thing?? (In my case so far)

Need a poll to see what percentage of different things happen eg. sex once/few times/ regularly/ get back into rel short/long......

also another for how long it takes for sex to happen after BU????
 
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