IKO69
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not so much from this board but in general. i hardly ever see guys approach girls, be it school, the store or anywhere else in public. i think with strong game you could make some major headway into this thing.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
what percentage of guys actually approach girls?
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
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Outside of clubs and their own social circle, about 15% in the general population. Guys in relationships are around 6%.
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I have to say, I actually do see a lot of guys cold-approaching, typically in the bars and clubs...more than I ever thought. A lot of guys seem to have balls out there. I have to say, every single time I'm in a bar/club, there are always a couple of guys cold-approaching hotties. Whether it has to do with alcohol, is a whole other story. Lots of guys won't approach unless they're buzzed, so that needs to be factored in too.IKO69 said:
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You'll never know but it happens in front of use all the time. We never know because it's human nature to assume that the individuals have met on prior occasions.
Think about the number of times you've been at a party or at some sort social gathering and you see people talking to each other all the time. It seems as if they've known each other for awhile only to find out later on that they've just met.
Seeing a cold approach is the same way. When you see a guy approach a girl, you're not going to know it's a cold approach unless you're sure the individuals in question don't know each other already (yeah I used a triple negative, so what).
Think about the number of times you've been at a party or at some sort social gathering and you see people talking to each other all the time. It seems as if they've known each other for awhile only to find out later on that they've just met.
Seeing a cold approach is the same way. When you see a guy approach a girl, you're not going to know it's a cold approach unless you're sure the individuals in question don't know each other already (yeah I used a triple negative, so what).
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
TheBucketOfTruth
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Of the times I've done cold approaches in bars, often the women are surprised and excited about it. The last cold approach I did out on the town, one of the girls asked me if I was gay because "most guys can't just go up and talk to women comfortably." She even made fun of the guy sitting next to them who had been sitting their nursing his drink, saying he was jealous or whatever.
If you're in a meat market type club, often women will be more "cold" to the cold approach. This is because they're usually better looking (on average) and more used to being approached repeatedly. That's part of why I prefer bars because I don't have much dance game, and clubs are usually too loud to have any meaningful conversation.
If you're in a meat market type club, often women will be more "cold" to the cold approach. This is because they're usually better looking (on average) and more used to being approached repeatedly. That's part of why I prefer bars because I don't have much dance game, and clubs are usually too loud to have any meaningful conversation.