IKO69
Master Don Juan
not so much from this board but in general. i hardly ever see guys approach girls, be it school, the store or anywhere else in public. i think with strong game you could make some major headway into this thing.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
what percentage of guys actually approach girls?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Outside of clubs and their own social circle, about 15% in the general population. Guys in relationships are around 6%.
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I have to say, I actually do see a lot of guys cold-approaching, typically in the bars and clubs...more than I ever thought. A lot of guys seem to have balls out there. I have to say, every single time I'm in a bar/club, there are always a couple of guys cold-approaching hotties. Whether it has to do with alcohol, is a whole other story. Lots of guys won't approach unless they're buzzed, so that needs to be factored in too.IKO69 said:
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You'll never know but it happens in front of use all the time. We never know because it's human nature to assume that the individuals have met on prior occasions.
Think about the number of times you've been at a party or at some sort social gathering and you see people talking to each other all the time. It seems as if they've known each other for awhile only to find out later on that they've just met.
Seeing a cold approach is the same way. When you see a guy approach a girl, you're not going to know it's a cold approach unless you're sure the individuals in question don't know each other already (yeah I used a triple negative, so what).
Think about the number of times you've been at a party or at some sort social gathering and you see people talking to each other all the time. It seems as if they've known each other for awhile only to find out later on that they've just met.
Seeing a cold approach is the same way. When you see a guy approach a girl, you're not going to know it's a cold approach unless you're sure the individuals in question don't know each other already (yeah I used a triple negative, so what).
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
TheBucketOfTruth
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Of the times I've done cold approaches in bars, often the women are surprised and excited about it. The last cold approach I did out on the town, one of the girls asked me if I was gay because "most guys can't just go up and talk to women comfortably." She even made fun of the guy sitting next to them who had been sitting their nursing his drink, saying he was jealous or whatever.
If you're in a meat market type club, often women will be more "cold" to the cold approach. This is because they're usually better looking (on average) and more used to being approached repeatedly. That's part of why I prefer bars because I don't have much dance game, and clubs are usually too loud to have any meaningful conversation.
If you're in a meat market type club, often women will be more "cold" to the cold approach. This is because they're usually better looking (on average) and more used to being approached repeatedly. That's part of why I prefer bars because I don't have much dance game, and clubs are usually too loud to have any meaningful conversation.