IKO69
Master Don Juan
not so much from this board but in general. i hardly ever see guys approach girls, be it school, the store or anywhere else in public. i think with strong game you could make some major headway into this thing.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
what percentage of guys actually approach girls?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Outside of clubs and their own social circle, about 15% in the general population. Guys in relationships are around 6%.
edger
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I have to say, I actually do see a lot of guys cold-approaching, typically in the bars and clubs...more than I ever thought. A lot of guys seem to have balls out there. I have to say, every single time I'm in a bar/club, there are always a couple of guys cold-approaching hotties. Whether it has to do with alcohol, is a whole other story. Lots of guys won't approach unless they're buzzed, so that needs to be factored in too.IKO69 said:
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You'll never know but it happens in front of use all the time. We never know because it's human nature to assume that the individuals have met on prior occasions.
Think about the number of times you've been at a party or at some sort social gathering and you see people talking to each other all the time. It seems as if they've known each other for awhile only to find out later on that they've just met.
Seeing a cold approach is the same way. When you see a guy approach a girl, you're not going to know it's a cold approach unless you're sure the individuals in question don't know each other already (yeah I used a triple negative, so what).
Think about the number of times you've been at a party or at some sort social gathering and you see people talking to each other all the time. It seems as if they've known each other for awhile only to find out later on that they've just met.
Seeing a cold approach is the same way. When you see a guy approach a girl, you're not going to know it's a cold approach unless you're sure the individuals in question don't know each other already (yeah I used a triple negative, so what).
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
TheBucketOfTruth
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Of the times I've done cold approaches in bars, often the women are surprised and excited about it. The last cold approach I did out on the town, one of the girls asked me if I was gay because "most guys can't just go up and talk to women comfortably." She even made fun of the guy sitting next to them who had been sitting their nursing his drink, saying he was jealous or whatever.
If you're in a meat market type club, often women will be more "cold" to the cold approach. This is because they're usually better looking (on average) and more used to being approached repeatedly. That's part of why I prefer bars because I don't have much dance game, and clubs are usually too loud to have any meaningful conversation.
If you're in a meat market type club, often women will be more "cold" to the cold approach. This is because they're usually better looking (on average) and more used to being approached repeatedly. That's part of why I prefer bars because I don't have much dance game, and clubs are usually too loud to have any meaningful conversation.