"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What % of your pickup attempts are in front of an audience?

fruitopiax

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I guess this would be cold approaches here. What % are around people that can clearly hear what you're talking about.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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People keep track of such statistics?
 

Jitterbug

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I've never approached a girl standing by herself in the middle of nowhere. There are always plenty of people around. Cold-approaching a girl with nobody around is creepy and will scare her off.

Nobody gives a toss about you trying to PU a girl. If you're ashamed of what you do, then it'd seem like everybody's watching. The truth is that most people are too caught up in their own world to notice.
 

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I think about 100%

I honestly can't ever remember trying to without someone else within hearing range.
 

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By hearing range, he probably means close enough to hear exactly what both of you are saying, i.e., seated at a table with other strangers, standing in line with strangers behind both of you (like at the post office), etc.

Me, zero %. My approaches are in view of other people (public), but not close enough to others so that they can follow our conversation.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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