"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What % of guys get laid in clubs or bars?

mr. kennedy

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I personally find it very difficult. I often get to the point where we're making out and grinding and getting the #, but at the end of the night the chick is leaving with her friends.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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cola

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Club game like online dating is almost all looks based. So if you are talking about one night stands its the best looking, best dressed guys in the club only.

Also its like a womans code that "we all leave together" you will almost never get a girl to leave her friends unless you know her from outside the club.

Now if you have a friend, your best shot is approaching sets of 2 and getting them both to come, but even that isn't reliable.
So your best bet is
Go to the clubs/bars to have fun only. Dance, get a number or two, act crazy, cut loose, because no one there is going to remember you in 2 days.

If you approach, do it in the day.
 

mr. kennedy

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It was the girl that picked me up. I went outside with my friend next to the smokers and she approached me asking for a lighter. We talk for 5 minutes (I took her # within those 5 minutes) and when she finished her cigarette she took my hand and lead me back inside to the dance floor. I was grabbing her ass 30 seconds later and we were making out. She kept grabbing my ass too.

But at the end of the night she left with her gf. She told me to call her the next day. If I couldn't close the deal on someone that was way into me like that I'm wondering who exactly is getting laid in clubs. Because when the lights came on at the end of the night I saw groups of women leaving together and groups of men leaving together.
 

skinnyguy

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So glad I don't go to clubs anymore. The problem is that you go in expecting to get laid and then when you don't you start becoming really negative. Like social media, clubs create the illusion that you'll be happy if you try them.
 

marmel75

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All the time if you are a DJ at the club, lol
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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SmooveMooves

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The days of going to the club and taking a dime back to your apartment are over. This is not to say that it is impossible, just a change over time.

The best way to get laid is to have a huge social circle and many connections that allow you benefits. To do this you need to offer relevant value of some sort. Chicks are going home with the guy who skipped the line to get in the club and is chilling in the VIP.
 
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