"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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magevis

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This is a girl I see around almost daily.We've chit chat casually before. I finally ask her out:
Me: We should meet up this week for drinks.
Her: Sunday. I'm free Sundays.
Me: We'll meet at x place, give me your number
Her: Still a long way to go till Sunday. We'll still meet before then.

There it goes. I didn't get the number. Isn't it natural to exchange contacts after agreeing to a date?.
Seems the interaction is moving backwards.
What to do next?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The Duke

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Her interest is medium. She probably has other dudes that she is hoping to go out with or isn't sure about you. I'd pick someone else to go out with.
 

magevis

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Her interest is medium. She probably has other dudes that she is hoping to go out with or isn't sure about you. I'd pick someone else to go out with.
I understand what you're saying. TBH I have nexted too many girls without ****ing them that I feel I should try harder.
This one seemed to have high interest in the past but cooled off for some reason, probably because I didn't ask her out soon enough.
 

Billtx49

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Isn't it natural to exchange contacts after agreeing to a date?
Not necessarily. A place, and date are set. That’s all you need for now. Confirm if you see her again, but don’t pose it as a question.
 

The Duke

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I suspect they feel rejected/miffed when a guy doesn't ask them out as soon as she thinks he should.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mazer

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If you don’t see her “around” then you know she is avoiding you. Sounds like she is waiting to see if something better comes along.
 
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