"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What now? How to keep it rolling?

pancakepalace

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Hi guys,

I have been dating this great girl since december. She is definitely one I want to keep and things are great now.

We had a few bumps a few months back but I handle everything the right way using the DJ bible. In fact, the tips it gave me worked wonders. I find myself breaking away from my AFC patterns of past times.

My question is "How do I keep it going good?". What are the most important factors to keeping the relationship interesting and fresh?

She is definitely LTR relationship. I just want to make sure to keep on the ball and not take her for granted.

Thanks for your help guys,
pancake
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Desdinova

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Just keep things fun. Whenever you go out on a date, make sure you keep fun as a priority. Also, continue to tease her and treat her as if you were still on your first couple of dates. Don't focus too much on romance, although a little bit of romance here and there is good for any relationship. Just don't overdo it.

It's the fun that keeps a woman attracted to you. If you can provide some spontaneous fun, she'll know you're a rarity and a keeper.
 

libre

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Ha ha ha!

I love the advice given already.

Glad that your beautifull fiddle is falling in tune. My own advice is for you to choose the tune and the tempo that you want to play. She seems to be craving your steadfast beat. Don't let her antics sway you; she possibly wants you to show that you are the man with the baton in the orchestra. Play your solo and she'll continue to join you.
 
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