“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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What Mystery hasn't told you about negging

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The basic function of the neg is to establish yourself as being of higher value than your target. There are several ways to do this, the neg being the lowest form, and usually attracts low value women.

Negging might might help you get a woman who is a 10 as far as looks, but she will also usually be a superficial person. Otherwise why would she fall for it. Try negging a cool chick, who is hot, has her sht together and is also a real person. You'll just seem like an idiot to her.

So here are the next two levels above negging, that still serve the same purpose - to establish yourself as having higher value.

In stage 2 you no longer use insults or judgmental comments to set yourself up. Stage 2 is about directly establishing yourself as the prize.

As an example you could say something like this to a target once you've began a conversation:

You: You know, honestly, there are a lot of women who are interested in me.

Her: "Oh really, why is that?" She may offer a sarcastic comment, but she is interested none the less.

You: It's simple. I have something that 99.9% of men don't have, and most women can sense it.

Her: Oh yeah, what's that?

You - smiling: Hey, I don't give out my secrets that easily, you have to earn it. You're getting close, but you haven't earned it yet.

You - without letting her respond: Here's the problem . . . are you ready for this? Of all the women I've spent time with recently, none of them quite has what it takes to maintain my interest. Now, here's the important question. Do you feel that you might have what it takes?


In stage 2 of negging you are creating a situation where you are challenging her to prove her worth to you. You don't actually have to devalue her.

For this to be effective, however, you actually do have to have something that most guys dont, otherwise you wont be believable. Great sexual skills would be an example of something you could posses that sets you apart. Luckily, most guys dont really know what they are doing in bed.

In stage 3, the highest stage, there is no longer a need to verbally communicate any strategy of raising your value or putting hers on trial. As you become a master, the vibration of value and success radiates off of you. It goes without saying, and women can feel and sense it. It's like when you see a guy, and he may not be that big, but something about his vibe tells you to not fcuk with him. You just feel that this person could beat you down like nothing. B.J. Penn is like that. He's a small guy, but his vibration is big, and the biggest guys around here never messed with him, even in highschool.

If you still need to use negs to get women interested, then you are not truly of a higher value. You actually believe you are inferior, so you must resort to trickery. But. hey, it works anyways. So use negs if you still need that crutch, but there are other ways that will get very different types of women.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The Sperminator said:
Negs only work on stupid girls.
... it's not the girl that's stupid, but your neg. Do you even know when or how to use one?

Thread starter, that's not a neg. What you're doing is qualifying using ****y and funny. Neg would be something like...

HB: I'm a model. (Complement me on my looks!)
You: Oh like a hand model? (Not rude but something unexpected.)
 

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PeterNorthisawesome said:
... it's not the girl that's stupid, but your neg. Do you even know when or how to use one?

Thread starter, that's not a neg. What you're doing is qualifying using ****y and funny. Neg would be something like...

HB: I'm a model. (Complement me on my looks!)
You: Oh like a hand model? (Not rude but something unexpected.)
This neg example you gave is also ****y/funny, which is not neccesarily what I'm advocating. I am always ****y/funny, which by the way was not invented by the double your dating guy.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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PeterNorthisawesome said:
... it's not the girl that's stupid, but your neg. Do you even know when or how to use one?

Thread starter, that's not a neg. What you're doing is qualifying using ****y and funny. Neg would be something like...

HB: I'm a model. (Complement me on my looks!)
You: Oh like a hand model? (Not rude but something unexpected.)
If someone just comes out and says that, theres no reason why they shouldn't be negged.
 

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I don't really use "negs" because I dislike MM, but when I talk to girls, I am constantly teasing them in a way that most gamers would call negs. I realize how powerful they are... I hammer girls constantly throughout my interactions with them... even if i am in day3,4,5,LTR... I phone them up and tell them that I am only phoning them to annoy them - then i pick at them and attack everything they say... their diction, their weak arguments, their views... whatever... But thats just me.
 
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Dongfu said:
This neg example you gave is also ****y/funny, which is not neccesarily what I'm advocating. I am always ****y/funny, which by the way was not invented by the double your dating guy.
No it's not... ****y and funny is part of a character or routine. Neg is when you say something that produces mixed motions. Fine, I'll give a better example...

Me: Those are nice pants! You really must have good style, I saw some girl wearing the same ones yesterday.
Her: OMG!
 

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PeterNorthisawesome said:
No it's not... ****y and funny is part of a character or routine. Neg is when you say something that produces mixed motions. Fine, I'll give a better example...

Me: Those are nice pants! You really must have good style, I saw some girl wearing the same ones yesterday.
Her: OMG!
True, but I understand what a neg is. The focus of the post is how to get beyond it, and why. We're already off track here.
 

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I thinking negging as a whole is really lame and unnecessary. Many many other ways you can bring a chick of higher value down...it's called sticking it in her ass.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You can say whatever you want, a neg, a smart ass comment, a backhanded compliment, as long as you convey that you have class, and are just having some fun, and you want her to share in the fun, WITH YOU, not at her expense. At least that's what I've experienced.
 

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BANTER!!!!!!

Thats all you neeeddddd...

forget negs,,, Alot of people dont know how to use them and You can offend a HB and even loose one....

Or they will juss look at you and say OK...

I told a 10 he hair looks like a waffle... She just looked at me and said OK...

I started using banter,,, that got me laid :)
 
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To be honest, the negs you read about in most PUA material are really only for guys who don't truly believe they have high value. If you truly believe and KNOW that you have high value, it will show through your personality. 10's will see it, 9's will see it, and the chodes clinging to the 9's and 10's will also see it.

The aura of your personality should be one giant neg to any girl who thinks she has higher status than you. If you truly believe you are the prize, once you make eye contact with her, she'll know. You won't have to ask her if she bought that shirt new...
 

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Well, I've had some bad experiences with negs, almost every girl who I have negged has gotten mad at me. I now know that this is because I'm a pretty good looking guy, and when you already have high value because of your looks extra value is not needed and it makes you look arrogant and like a jerk.

What seems to work better for me now is the just treat every hot girl like a little bratty sister who always gets what she wants and your not going to let her push you around. I have a sort of disinterested kindness to me which makes them go crazy.
 

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What a lot of guys are missing is that C+F works BEST when you've established great RAPPORT between you and the woman you like.
After all, you like her, don't you?
Or are you just trying to act like an a**hole?
A lot of guys that are angry and resentful towards women use Negs, and C+F in an arrogant and demeaning manner.
Sure , they may be charming and good looking, but they're still a**holes.

Good people do NOT insult the people that they genuinley like, admire, and are attracted to.

Personally, I aspire to be better than that.
You may not agree, but I refuse to act like an a**hole to get some chick to "think" I'm High Vaklue.
Man...I AM High Value already, Goddamnit.
I jut see no reason to turn it on so thick with a woman who has such a strong B*tch Shield, and is obviously so self centered, that I have to resort to using extreme amounts of technique just to get her to notice me. Last thing I want to do is go after som estyuck up b*tch, just becasue "OMG! She's so HAWT!"
HAWT is not synonymous with nice. HAWT is not synonymous with sweet, loving, felxible, and giving.
HAWT does not mean Feminine and nurturing to my children.


Guys, look at the bigger picture. That's all I'm saying. I don't want to se eyou at 40 plus years and a lonely miserable fVck, looking aporn, spending all youtr time online, and dragging your feet through the day.
Wishing, hoping, dreamin...but NOT ACTING.
That's death, man. Living death.
DOn't do this.
There's alot at stake for you.
And there's a lot more to this than just Pick Up.
There's a reason we use the Don Juan model in this forum, and NOT just "pick Up'.
Think about that...deeply.



Granted, I attract women on my proesence, image, and demeanor Alone, without saying a word.
But the last thing I want to do is fvck it all up when I open my mouth.
And don't say "yeah, buit You're NOT doing it right!"
It's not that I'm not doing it right, but my personality and image is just not congruent with trying to "come off' as better and more high value. I already Am. Know what I mean?
So this is what is happening to the community.
You've got guys who take this stuff too literally. And mess up.
You've got guys that use this and it works for them.
And then you've got guys like me, who are in a different stage and mindset, and don't need a cheap "technique" to get a woman to be attracted to me, and interested in who I am.
It's all about who YOU want to BE.
What kind of image do you see yourself as?
Are you really a classy guy? Do you treat women like ladies, or do you treat them all like sh*t?

Now, hold on. No one said about putting the chick on a pedastle, or worshipping her, or doing favors yada yada...
I'm talking about seeing her as a human being, with good things, and bad things, and knowing this chick wants to get her world rocked bad, real bad....
But damn, learn how to calibrate , guys.
LEarn abou ther mannerism, personality, sense of humor, and what makes her tick.
Listen to her words, her pacing, her body, her EYES....
Most of the women I interact with respond with a sexually playful and suggestive C+F..but it's not over the top. And it doesn't ever make her feel like she's beneath me.
It's just that I don't take her as intimidating to me. She's not powerful for me.
Understand?
So I play with her. But still maintain a sense of respect, but sexuality is present. Hell, I just stand there half the time, and chicks can't stop staring!
Sounds coinceited. I know. That's not the point I'm trying to get across. I give an example because I have to.If I use C+F the way it's ..ahem..."Supposed" to be used..I'll come off as a conceited arrogant snob, who's too "into himself".
I'm not that guy. I'm not going to say that I'm not Selfish. BUT...that doesn't mean I don't respect and apprecitate people, and that I don't act with grace and consideration.

The idea is that C+F needs to be calibrated for YOU and HER.
You need to know who you are, dudes.
You need to know how she responds. And calibrate.
Don't think it's all about being a jerk.That's immature, and petty.
Rise above that sh*t.
Dude, we talk about becoming Alpha Males in here.
Alpha Males.
Do you really know what this mean?
I do.
And I can tell you that half the posts I see in here demonstrate that the average guy has NO freakin' CLUE!!!
Fvck, C+F.
Become a man, Goddamnit.
Realize your Alphaness, and your TRUE VALUE.
THIS is so very, very important. That I feel we're missing the bigger picture.
And I fear that with half the guys on here being just teenagers, we're presenting the wrong picture to them.
And what's going to happen when.if they ahve kids?
How are you going to teach your little boy, little man?
You're probably 17, and you have no clue on being a Man.You better start learning now, and fast.
You don't really have a choice anymore,.
You don't and you never HAD the "luxury" of NOT becoming a Man, a secure and confident masculine Man.

I look forward to seeing you on the battlefield.

Get ready.


Rant over. Carry on.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Touchout said:
Well, I've had some bad experiences with negs, almost every girl who I have negged has gotten mad at me. I now know that this is because I'm a pretty good looking guy, and when you already have high value because of your looks extra value is not needed and it makes you look arrogant and like a jerk.

What seems to work better for me now is the just treat every hot girl like a little bratty sister who always gets what she wants and your not going to let her push you around. I have a sort of disinterested kindness to me which makes them go crazy.
You can sum up this whole post with one word

"banter"
 

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Interceptor said:
What a lot of guys are missing is that C+F works BEST when you've established great RAPPORT between you and the woman you like.
After all, you like her, don't you?
Or are you just trying to act like an a**hole?
A lot of guys that are angry and resentful towards women use Negs, and C+F in an arrogant and demeaning manner.
Sure , they may be charming and good looking, but they're still a**holes.

Good people do NOT insult the people that they genuinley like, admire, and are attracted to.

Personally, I aspire to be better than that.
You may not agree, but I refuse to act like an a**hole to get some chick to "think" I'm High Vaklue.
Man...I AM High Value already, Goddamnit.
I jut see no reason to turn it on so thick with a woman who has such a strong B*tch Shield, and is obviously so self centered, that I have to resort to using extreme amounts of technique just to get her to notice me. Last thing I want to do is go after som estyuck up b*tch, just becasue "OMG! She's so HAWT!"
HAWT is not synonymous with nice. HAWT is not synonymous with sweet, loving, felxible, and giving.
HAWT does not mean Feminine and nurturing to my children.


Guys, look at the bigger picture. That's all I'm saying. I don't want to se eyou at 40 plus years and a lonely miserable fVck, looking aporn, spending all youtr time online, and dragging your feet through the day.
Wishing, hoping, dreamin...but NOT ACTING.
That's death, man. Living death.
DOn't do this.
There's alot at stake for you.
And there's a lot more to this than just Pick Up.
There's a reason we use the Don Juan model in this forum, and NOT just "pick Up'.
Think about that...deeply.



Granted, I attract women on my proesence, image, and demeanor Alone, without saying a word.
But the last thing I want to do is fvck it all up when I open my mouth.
And don't say "yeah, buit You're NOT doing it right!"
It's not that I'm not doing it right, but my personality and image is just not congruent with trying to "come off' as better and more high value. I already Am. Know what I mean?
So this is what is happening to the community.
You've got guys who take this stuff too literally. And mess up.
You've got guys that use this and it works for them.
And then you've got guys like me, who are in a different stage and mindset, and don't need a cheap "technique" to get a woman to be attracted to me, and interested in who I am.
It's all about who YOU want to BE.
What kind of image do you see yourself as?
Are you really a classy guy? Do you treat women like ladies, or do you treat them all like sh*t?

Now, hold on. No one said about putting the chick on a pedastle, or worshipping her, or doing favors yada yada...
I'm talking about seeing her as a human being, with good things, and bad things, and knowing this chick wants to get her world rocked bad, real bad....
But damn, learn how to calibrate , guys.
LEarn abou ther mannerism, personality, sense of humor, and what makes her tick.
Listen to her words, her pacing, her body, her EYES....
Most of the women I interact with respond with a sexually playful and suggestive C+F..but it's not over the top. And it doesn't ever make her feel like she's beneath me.
It's just that I don't take her as intimidating to me. She's not powerful for me.
Understand?
So I play with her. But still maintain a sense of respect, but sexuality is present. Hell, I just stand there half the time, and chicks can't stop staring!
Sounds coinceited. I know. That's not the point I'm trying to get across. I give an example because I have to.If I use C+F the way it's ..ahem..."Supposed" to be used..I'll come off as a conceited arrogant snob, who's too "into himself".
I'm not that guy. I'm not going to say that I'm not Selfish. BUT...that doesn't mean I don't respect and apprecitate people, and that I don't act with grace and consideration.

The idea is that C+F needs to be calibrated for YOU and HER.
You need to know who you are, dudes.
You need to know how she responds. And calibrate.
Don't think it's all about being a jerk.That's immature, and petty.
Rise above that sh*t.
Dude, we talk about becoming Alpha Males in here.
Alpha Males.
Do you really know what this mean?
I do.
And I can tell you that half the posts I see in here demonstrate that the average guy has NO freakin' CLUE!!!
Fvck, C+F.
Become a man, Goddamnit.
Realize your Alphaness, and your TRUE VALUE.
THIS is so very, very important. That I feel we're missing the bigger picture.
And I fear that with half the guys on here being just teenagers, we're presenting the wrong picture to them.
And what's going to happen when.if they ahve kids?
How are you going to teach your little boy, little man?
You're probably 17, and you have no clue on being a Man.You better start learning now, and fast.
You don't really have a choice anymore,.
You don't and you never HAD the "luxury" of NOT becoming a Man, a secure and confident masculine Man.

I look forward to seeing you on the battlefield.

Get ready.


Rant over. Carry on.
I agree... But Your post is all over the place.... your talking everywhere get your point straight simpler...

Other than that Im with you
 

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LOL.:crackup:
Don't like it, don't read it, bud.

Thanks.

Next time offer up something yourself instead of one or two sentences.
Deal?
 

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Wtf

Interceptor said:
LOL.:crackup:
Don't like it, don't read it, bud.

Thanks.

Next time offer up something yourself instead of one or two sentences.
Deal?
Brotha, when did I say I didnt like it? LOL :crackup:

I said Im with you not against you :nono:
 

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Slick, I thought you was comin' off as a real live English Perfesser or sumthin'
I thought you was about to drop my grade 'cuz I didn't use a 1 inch border, double spacing, or use the MLA standard for me references.......




:woo: March on, bud.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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