"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What Mystery hasn't told you about negging

Mad Manic

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Bvbidd said:
Negs work very well it just has to look like a joke.

The right reaction will be her laughing and hitting you on the arm.

You can smack a girl and call her a dirty wh0re but if you look like your joking she'll just laugh with you and get all red and flustered.
Correct, as shown in my post regarding me joking about the girl's hair. :)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I think if you throw a neg at a girl jokingly within the opener to a girl you just met before you have rapport or comfort you'll just piss her off and look bad. But if you open a girl and she's giving you an attitude that she's better and you're not good enough or just being slightly disrespectful, negging her, jokingly or matter of factly but never in a mean tone, might communicate to her that you don't agree with her attitude and won't accept it.

I don't like the word neg, as this sets up the mentality to insult. I see it more as an IOD (Indicator of Disinterest). When you have rapport and comfort with the girl and you deliver an IOD in a joking manner, that's teasing her about your interest in her and a way to push/pull (show interest/show disinterest) to show you're a challenge and to make her have to jump through hoops and earn you.

But Negs were often explained as a way to break through a hot girl's b!tchshield by saying something like, "nice nails, are they real..?" to lower her value/raise yours in theory. And I don't think that works. I think a lot of times she'll just sense that your trying to manipulate her and just be put off by it. I personally haven't been able to get it to work very often, and stopped doing it long ago.

A lot of times a girl will have an ice shield when you first open her and you just have to plow through it. But if she gives you a b!tchy attitude I think you should "neg" the attitude and what she said not her nails or personal effects. See the distinction? Don't GIRLS neg each others over petty personal effect but a high value would GUY would neg an attitude?

I think just not complimenting the girl or stating your intent is all the neg you need most of the time.
 

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Dongfu said:
Okay bro. In case you havent been paying attention, I give my book for free to anyone who requests it.

So yes, i'd stir shyt up anyway, and I dont see the [point in removing the add. The owners of the sight have no problem with advertisements. Plenty of people here advertise, as well as post.

Do you want a copy. Does anyone else but you really care if the add is there or not. Have you gotten laid recently? Are you angry? Why read my posts? :D
Yea, I figured you were here trying to make money. From one online sales person to another - you're going about it the wrong way.
 

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ER!C L!VE said:
Yea, I figured you were here trying to make money. From one online sales person to another - you're going about it the wrong way.
Totally agree with you Eric. Plus the terms of agreement for the site is no ads in your signature... why do you think Docs got banned?
 

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ER!C L!VE said:
Yea, I figured you were here trying to make money. From one online sales person to another - you're going about it the wrong way.
After my reply, you still think i'm trying to advertise :confused:

I agree that this would be ineffective. In actuality, the book is being reviewed by publishers at this time. They probably wont want me having a site for the book. So, you can look foreward to seeing the link gone very soon. :yes:

Unless this gut is right ^^^^ and it's in the terms that no links are allowed to other sites, even though there are plenty. I'll remove it asap, as I dont want be banned.

Until then, wish me luck, and i'll send you the paper back when it's out. :rolleyes:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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