"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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what more can I do to improve my appearance?

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Charm&Style

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you have good figure bro, ide juss recomend you getting a bit slimmer shirt, and ofcourse working out more.

For your age, the way your posing and dressed up in that pic is coming of a bit too "manly/Adulty" if you get what im saying. Bring back the youth.

Other than that to me you're in good shape, and you dont dress up like eminem :crackup: like some ppl on this board..
 

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and how the hell do you pull girls that are actually worth something dressing like eminem?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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asdfghjkl

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If you have a decent body, which you probably do because your a swimmer, i would definitely wear tighter shirts. Im about 5'9 and i wear only smalls and sometimes mediums from abercrombie/hollister/ae.
 

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yup i'm 5'11 and wear mediums from abercrombie and d&g and i think a small in lacoste
 

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I think he just wanted other men to OOooohhh and AAaaahhh over his picture. He didn't really want constructive criticism.
 

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I agree with DJorBust.

he wanted to hear that he was good looking from other people.

I think that one thing you could do to improve your appearance would be to possibly work out more, which you said you were already doing. Seems like you're okay.

And I dont know, I guess it depends on the girl, but I wouldn't wear such formal clothing. Unless you were only wearing formal clothing for that particular picture.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Charm&Style

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JLW said:
I agree with DJorBust.

he wanted to hear that he was good looking from other people.

I think that one thing you could do to improve your appearance would be to possibly work out more, which you said you were already doing. Seems like you're okay.

And I dont know, I guess it depends on the girl, but I wouldn't wear such formal clothing. Unless you were only wearing formal clothing for that particular picture.

would you rather him dress up like eminem :rolleyes:
 

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swimmer07 said:
yup i'm 5'11 and wear mediums from abercrombie and d&g and i think a small in lacoste
Hey bud, thread hijack, but what do you swim? times? im a swimmer too so thats why im asking
 

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JLW said:
I agree with DJorBust.

he wanted to hear that he was good looking from other people.

I think that one thing you could do to improve your appearance would be to possibly work out more, which you said you were already doing. Seems like you're okay.

And I dont know, I guess it depends on the girl, but I wouldn't wear such formal clothing. Unless you were only wearing formal clothing for that particular picture.
ummm no there is always things you can do to improve yourself
 

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From what I see there's nothing wrong with you. Your problems are internal.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Nighthawk

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Facial hair and a mean expression. Worked wonders for me.

Some girls like the wholesome look, lots prefer the bad boy. Experiment by buying a leather jacket and scowling a bit more.
 

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To me you're just a normal guy, nothing special, nothing below average... You lack a little style from what I see in your clothes, also facial hair wouldn't hurt bro...


How about asking a woman this question ??



-Cod3r
 

L777

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lol thats a modelling photo (or at least your attempt at one)

<cough> showoff <cough>
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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