"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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what more can I do to improve my appearance?

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Charm&Style

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you have good figure bro, ide juss recomend you getting a bit slimmer shirt, and ofcourse working out more.

For your age, the way your posing and dressed up in that pic is coming of a bit too "manly/Adulty" if you get what im saying. Bring back the youth.

Other than that to me you're in good shape, and you dont dress up like eminem :crackup: like some ppl on this board..
 

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and how the hell do you pull girls that are actually worth something dressing like eminem?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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If you have a decent body, which you probably do because your a swimmer, i would definitely wear tighter shirts. Im about 5'9 and i wear only smalls and sometimes mediums from abercrombie/hollister/ae.
 

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yup i'm 5'11 and wear mediums from abercrombie and d&g and i think a small in lacoste
 

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I think he just wanted other men to OOooohhh and AAaaahhh over his picture. He didn't really want constructive criticism.
 

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I agree with DJorBust.

he wanted to hear that he was good looking from other people.

I think that one thing you could do to improve your appearance would be to possibly work out more, which you said you were already doing. Seems like you're okay.

And I dont know, I guess it depends on the girl, but I wouldn't wear such formal clothing. Unless you were only wearing formal clothing for that particular picture.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Charm&Style

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JLW said:
I agree with DJorBust.

he wanted to hear that he was good looking from other people.

I think that one thing you could do to improve your appearance would be to possibly work out more, which you said you were already doing. Seems like you're okay.

And I dont know, I guess it depends on the girl, but I wouldn't wear such formal clothing. Unless you were only wearing formal clothing for that particular picture.

would you rather him dress up like eminem :rolleyes:
 

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swimmer07 said:
yup i'm 5'11 and wear mediums from abercrombie and d&g and i think a small in lacoste
Hey bud, thread hijack, but what do you swim? times? im a swimmer too so thats why im asking
 

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JLW said:
I agree with DJorBust.

he wanted to hear that he was good looking from other people.

I think that one thing you could do to improve your appearance would be to possibly work out more, which you said you were already doing. Seems like you're okay.

And I dont know, I guess it depends on the girl, but I wouldn't wear such formal clothing. Unless you were only wearing formal clothing for that particular picture.
ummm no there is always things you can do to improve yourself
 

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From what I see there's nothing wrong with you. Your problems are internal.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Facial hair and a mean expression. Worked wonders for me.

Some girls like the wholesome look, lots prefer the bad boy. Experiment by buying a leather jacket and scowling a bit more.
 

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To me you're just a normal guy, nothing special, nothing below average... You lack a little style from what I see in your clothes, also facial hair wouldn't hurt bro...


How about asking a woman this question ??



-Cod3r
 

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lol thats a modelling photo (or at least your attempt at one)

<cough> showoff <cough>
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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