"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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what more can I do to improve my appearance?

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Charm&Style

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you have good figure bro, ide juss recomend you getting a bit slimmer shirt, and ofcourse working out more.

For your age, the way your posing and dressed up in that pic is coming of a bit too "manly/Adulty" if you get what im saying. Bring back the youth.

Other than that to me you're in good shape, and you dont dress up like eminem :crackup: like some ppl on this board..
 

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and how the hell do you pull girls that are actually worth something dressing like eminem?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If you have a decent body, which you probably do because your a swimmer, i would definitely wear tighter shirts. Im about 5'9 and i wear only smalls and sometimes mediums from abercrombie/hollister/ae.
 

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yup i'm 5'11 and wear mediums from abercrombie and d&g and i think a small in lacoste
 

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I think he just wanted other men to OOooohhh and AAaaahhh over his picture. He didn't really want constructive criticism.
 

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I agree with DJorBust.

he wanted to hear that he was good looking from other people.

I think that one thing you could do to improve your appearance would be to possibly work out more, which you said you were already doing. Seems like you're okay.

And I dont know, I guess it depends on the girl, but I wouldn't wear such formal clothing. Unless you were only wearing formal clothing for that particular picture.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Charm&Style

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JLW said:
I agree with DJorBust.

he wanted to hear that he was good looking from other people.

I think that one thing you could do to improve your appearance would be to possibly work out more, which you said you were already doing. Seems like you're okay.

And I dont know, I guess it depends on the girl, but I wouldn't wear such formal clothing. Unless you were only wearing formal clothing for that particular picture.

would you rather him dress up like eminem :rolleyes:
 

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swimmer07 said:
yup i'm 5'11 and wear mediums from abercrombie and d&g and i think a small in lacoste
Hey bud, thread hijack, but what do you swim? times? im a swimmer too so thats why im asking
 

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JLW said:
I agree with DJorBust.

he wanted to hear that he was good looking from other people.

I think that one thing you could do to improve your appearance would be to possibly work out more, which you said you were already doing. Seems like you're okay.

And I dont know, I guess it depends on the girl, but I wouldn't wear such formal clothing. Unless you were only wearing formal clothing for that particular picture.
ummm no there is always things you can do to improve yourself
 

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From what I see there's nothing wrong with you. Your problems are internal.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Facial hair and a mean expression. Worked wonders for me.

Some girls like the wholesome look, lots prefer the bad boy. Experiment by buying a leather jacket and scowling a bit more.
 

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To me you're just a normal guy, nothing special, nothing below average... You lack a little style from what I see in your clothes, also facial hair wouldn't hurt bro...


How about asking a woman this question ??



-Cod3r
 

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lol thats a modelling photo (or at least your attempt at one)

<cough> showoff <cough>
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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