"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What makes you cool?

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Natural Amazingness VS. learning "skills" or tricks

Warrior74 said:
Mama's advice was bullsh!t. (well not completely, but it sent the wrong message) The key to learning any skill is practice, that's how you get to be your best at it.
I don't have a lot of time to really comment on every alternapoint made, however I will use this quote to make a specific point.

I am not talking about learning new skills or people skills at all, for that matter.

The main point I want to get across is that at pretty much everyone's core, they have something really cool going on for them. And they need to recognize that. What it is, and how to really see that says a lot about who they are, and who they need to be hanging with. If you are more concerned with your love for comic books and your natural artistic ability, then you are going to attract someone who really digs that about you easier and better than learning some hand trick to try and attract the Britney Spears crew.

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The first point to take away is that really representing your own talents make you automatically passionate and natural with something.

And the second point is that the people you attract with that particular passion will be the best people for you to be around, anyways.

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The body language point Warrior74 made was great, however that is a whole other post.

Great discussion so far, by the way. Some of you who recognize what draws people to you, should elaborate for others, or maybe start a thread in the tips section. Seems like some good knowledge.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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