"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What made you think "Yea.. it's time To Workout"?

Georgepithyou

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I was 5'9 and Skinny at a music festival and felt horrible because there were a tonne of dudes who were way bigger than me. So I was like "yeah, I don't like this feeling". Started lifting I think like a week later.

It also helps with Depression. When i workout it's like completely different. Like I can take on anything. Must be dopamine or testosterone idk. My anxiety also shoots down. And hey no guy should die without looking his best once in his life time.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Poonstra

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Red Pill told me to do starting strength, so I started doing the starting strength program.

I agree on the mental state. We've been in lock down since December, so I can only do light weights in the back yard.
Since I can't properly lift I started worring about things that six month ago didn't even cross my mind. Funny how that works huh?
 

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I was in great shape in college...basically stopped lifting for 10 years around 25 and my weight ballooned...one day thought I was having a heart attack..went to the hospital and they find elevated cardiac enzymes...luckily nothing bad happened but that was a wake-up call...got my ass in shape again real quick...
 

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I used to workout everyday in college(mainly to flex and get girls) then stopped afterwards and gained some weight. I started looking back at my photos and realized how chunky I got. Then what really did it is I started developing a very small(but noticeable to me) double chin. This was before beards got trendy. I said hell no, I need to get my azz to the gym. That allowed me to looksmax again and get girls.

Now I do it mainly for me and me only to stay healthy and feel good(both mentally and physically) so that I can be a good father and participate in my kid's activities.
 

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I started my business and my ADHD took over. I couldn't focus. I work out for my mental health, the aesthetics are an added bonus
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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My girlfriend from years ago,now ex,used to work in a bar,and the doormen there was massive...like barn doors. She always used to mention it.Not in a way to put me down,but it was clear from her and her friends convos that these guys were alphas and their size commanded them respect.Meanwhile,I was skinny as a rake.....One day she said to me,unprompted,hey,your really good looking,but you are so skinny..." Wel that was it....next week I hit the gym to beef up and never looked back.And,lemme tell ya,it was the best thing I ever did,because,as well as the many benefits of a better body,you also get the run on effects,that you eat better,you get better informed of nutrition,your clothes fit better etc etc.There are no downside at all
 

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I was 5'9 and Skinny at a music festival and felt horrible because there were a tonne of dudes who were way bigger than me. So I was like "yeah, I don't like this feeling". Started lifting I think like a week later.

It also helps with Depression. When i workout it's like completely different. Like I can take on anything. Must be dopamine or testosterone idk. My anxiety also shoots down. And hey no guy should die without looking his best once in his life time.
Same situation for me only I know I could be even more comfortable approaching if I felt like I could handle a fight.
 

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I was 5'9 and Skinny at a music festival and felt horrible because there were a tonne of dudes who were way bigger than me. So I was like "yeah, I don't like this feeling". Started lifting I think like a week later.

It also helps with Depression. When i workout it's like completely different. Like I can take on anything. Must be dopamine or testosterone idk. My anxiety also shoots down. And hey no guy should die without looking his best once in his life time.
It's true. "Feel good" hormones are circulated through the body, and stress is eaten into like "Pac Man". The circulation and centering which occurs allows for more contructive and powerful thoughts. It shouldn't be an option for one who aspires to "living well".
 

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I did it for sports in 8th grade. Started seeing big changes and girls started noticing. Now it’s an addiction.. if I miss a scheduled workout I feel off. Couldn’t imagine my life without physical training.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Today when I just got my looks score of 3 and it was recommended that I lose the weight as being the main contributor to that score.
 

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Naturally skinny as a kid and started lifting late teens, but didn't get into diet properly until late 20's.

Spent most of twenties parting hard at tge weekend so so didn't see best progress until then.

Great feeling being able to run around with my young daughter at soft play, wherever when most younger men seem out of shape and struggling to keep up with theirs.

To me it's just like drinking or eating now, always make sure I get a few sessions in a week, even if on holiday.

I do it for myself and virtually never find it a choir... its just what I do. No getting away from women liking it too, doesn't take away from your attractiveness.
 
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