ChalengeGuyFan
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Not just with the ladies, but also academics, career, adventure etc.
Anything in life.
Anything in life.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
What keeps/kept you back more: laziness or fear?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
improving your self is an "uncomfortable approach" to living - eg theres a lot of uncertainty, facing fears (aproaching women) , its a lot of effort... many people prefer to remain in their comfort zone even if that means having a mediocre life...
some people are naturaly lazy/procratinators....im naturally a procratinator, often feeling cant be botherd (eg with my Uni disseration at the moment, its boring , its hard work to get motivated)
some pepole are unorganised/unconcientious
a hell of a lot of people's egos prevent them from accepting reality, and they ignore things, thus dont improve
everything is relative as well, if an AFC hangs with this AFC buddies all the time, he isnt exposed (never sees) men with thier sh.it together ...thus he has no reason to improve...
some people are naturaly lazy/procratinators....im naturally a procratinator, often feeling cant be botherd (eg with my Uni disseration at the moment, its boring , its hard work to get motivated)
some pepole are unorganised/unconcientious
a hell of a lot of people's egos prevent them from accepting reality, and they ignore things, thus dont improve
everything is relative as well, if an AFC hangs with this AFC buddies all the time, he isnt exposed (never sees) men with thier sh.it together ...thus he has no reason to improve...
This is such a great question. Honestly it's hard to tell sometimes. I think laziness has held me back from career and stuff like that. When it comes to women i think it's more fear of being rejected. I'm not good with humiliation unless i'm putting it upon myself.
HeyPachuco!
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Well said mate,kingsam said:everything is relative as well, if an AFC hangs with this AFC buddies all the time, he isnt exposed (never sees) men with thier sh.it together ...thus he has no reason to improve...
I for one can vouch on this concept. I've mixed around with different Social Circles and the guys that have had their sh.it together motivated me to get my sh.it done. It gives you that 'fury' to improve. Instead of being jealous or bitter about it, I think ABOUT myself. What I should be doing. How I can improve.
Then you have you're regular mates who are bumming around. You kinda bum around with them too until it gets to a point of embarrasment. I've noticed that actions override speech most of the time with these types of people. You automatically become an Alpha Male within the group.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
They both reinforce each other I think. They compliment each other so well. You're afraid of doing something, so you can use it as a justification for being lazy. You know that you should conquer your fear, but you're just too lazy. It's a vicious cycle.
As Kingsam pointed out, you have to get out of your comfort zone if you want to ever accomplish anything. That involves losing your constant need for comfort (laziness) and excuses to not try things (fear).
As Kingsam pointed out, you have to get out of your comfort zone if you want to ever accomplish anything. That involves losing your constant need for comfort (laziness) and excuses to not try things (fear).
CuriousGirl
Senior Don Juan
Laziness, I'm a major procrastinator. But when I put the effort in I get great results...in everything I do. 'Cept bowling, I'm really **** at bowling.