ChalengeGuyFan
Master Don Juan
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Not just with the ladies, but also academics, career, adventure etc.
Anything in life.
Anything in life.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
What keeps/kept you back more: laziness or fear?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
improving your self is an "uncomfortable approach" to living - eg theres a lot of uncertainty, facing fears (aproaching women) , its a lot of effort... many people prefer to remain in their comfort zone even if that means having a mediocre life...
some people are naturaly lazy/procratinators....im naturally a procratinator, often feeling cant be botherd (eg with my Uni disseration at the moment, its boring , its hard work to get motivated)
some pepole are unorganised/unconcientious
a hell of a lot of people's egos prevent them from accepting reality, and they ignore things, thus dont improve
everything is relative as well, if an AFC hangs with this AFC buddies all the time, he isnt exposed (never sees) men with thier sh.it together ...thus he has no reason to improve...
some people are naturaly lazy/procratinators....im naturally a procratinator, often feeling cant be botherd (eg with my Uni disseration at the moment, its boring , its hard work to get motivated)
some pepole are unorganised/unconcientious
a hell of a lot of people's egos prevent them from accepting reality, and they ignore things, thus dont improve
everything is relative as well, if an AFC hangs with this AFC buddies all the time, he isnt exposed (never sees) men with thier sh.it together ...thus he has no reason to improve...
This is such a great question. Honestly it's hard to tell sometimes. I think laziness has held me back from career and stuff like that. When it comes to women i think it's more fear of being rejected. I'm not good with humiliation unless i'm putting it upon myself.
HeyPachuco!
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Well said mate,kingsam said:everything is relative as well, if an AFC hangs with this AFC buddies all the time, he isnt exposed (never sees) men with thier sh.it together ...thus he has no reason to improve...
I for one can vouch on this concept. I've mixed around with different Social Circles and the guys that have had their sh.it together motivated me to get my sh.it done. It gives you that 'fury' to improve. Instead of being jealous or bitter about it, I think ABOUT myself. What I should be doing. How I can improve.
Then you have you're regular mates who are bumming around. You kinda bum around with them too until it gets to a point of embarrasment. I've noticed that actions override speech most of the time with these types of people. You automatically become an Alpha Male within the group.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
They both reinforce each other I think. They compliment each other so well. You're afraid of doing something, so you can use it as a justification for being lazy. You know that you should conquer your fear, but you're just too lazy. It's a vicious cycle.
As Kingsam pointed out, you have to get out of your comfort zone if you want to ever accomplish anything. That involves losing your constant need for comfort (laziness) and excuses to not try things (fear).
As Kingsam pointed out, you have to get out of your comfort zone if you want to ever accomplish anything. That involves losing your constant need for comfort (laziness) and excuses to not try things (fear).
CuriousGirl
Senior Don Juan
Laziness, I'm a major procrastinator. But when I put the effort in I get great results...in everything I do. 'Cept bowling, I'm really **** at bowling.