ChalengeGuyFan
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Not just with the ladies, but also academics, career, adventure etc.
Anything in life.
Anything in life.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
What keeps/kept you back more: laziness or fear?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
improving your self is an "uncomfortable approach" to living - eg theres a lot of uncertainty, facing fears (aproaching women) , its a lot of effort... many people prefer to remain in their comfort zone even if that means having a mediocre life...
some people are naturaly lazy/procratinators....im naturally a procratinator, often feeling cant be botherd (eg with my Uni disseration at the moment, its boring , its hard work to get motivated)
some pepole are unorganised/unconcientious
a hell of a lot of people's egos prevent them from accepting reality, and they ignore things, thus dont improve
everything is relative as well, if an AFC hangs with this AFC buddies all the time, he isnt exposed (never sees) men with thier sh.it together ...thus he has no reason to improve...
some people are naturaly lazy/procratinators....im naturally a procratinator, often feeling cant be botherd (eg with my Uni disseration at the moment, its boring , its hard work to get motivated)
some pepole are unorganised/unconcientious
a hell of a lot of people's egos prevent them from accepting reality, and they ignore things, thus dont improve
everything is relative as well, if an AFC hangs with this AFC buddies all the time, he isnt exposed (never sees) men with thier sh.it together ...thus he has no reason to improve...
This is such a great question. Honestly it's hard to tell sometimes. I think laziness has held me back from career and stuff like that. When it comes to women i think it's more fear of being rejected. I'm not good with humiliation unless i'm putting it upon myself.
HeyPachuco!
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Well said mate,kingsam said:everything is relative as well, if an AFC hangs with this AFC buddies all the time, he isnt exposed (never sees) men with thier sh.it together ...thus he has no reason to improve...
I for one can vouch on this concept. I've mixed around with different Social Circles and the guys that have had their sh.it together motivated me to get my sh.it done. It gives you that 'fury' to improve. Instead of being jealous or bitter about it, I think ABOUT myself. What I should be doing. How I can improve.
Then you have you're regular mates who are bumming around. You kinda bum around with them too until it gets to a point of embarrasment. I've noticed that actions override speech most of the time with these types of people. You automatically become an Alpha Male within the group.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
They both reinforce each other I think. They compliment each other so well. You're afraid of doing something, so you can use it as a justification for being lazy. You know that you should conquer your fear, but you're just too lazy. It's a vicious cycle.
As Kingsam pointed out, you have to get out of your comfort zone if you want to ever accomplish anything. That involves losing your constant need for comfort (laziness) and excuses to not try things (fear).
As Kingsam pointed out, you have to get out of your comfort zone if you want to ever accomplish anything. That involves losing your constant need for comfort (laziness) and excuses to not try things (fear).
CuriousGirl
Senior Don Juan
Laziness, I'm a major procrastinator. But when I put the effort in I get great results...in everything I do. 'Cept bowling, I'm really **** at bowling.