"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
What is your reason for coming to this site?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
After some time you will get tired of chasing chick and only wanting sex.aron77 said:
After some time you will realise that all these girls you banged never did you any good, never made you improve yourself or your life.
Look at guys who have been years on this site and are very successful with women. Most of them realised after a while that life is not about getting chick and seducing or banging them. They realised that women didn't make them happy or have a better life.
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Please lets avoid the bvllsh1t where you can be perfectly happy and have a high self esteem while you cannot even pick up some decent girl, its a necessity for the body to satisfy libido and a necessity for your mind to have some confirmation of your value.
Actually the quantity and quality of women available to you is one of the many bench marks for which a man can evaluate himself, social skills and confidence first.
Now your question OP, I believe most of the guys come here simply because they didnt receive the tools to interact with women and are demotivated and frustrated, deciding if you want quality or quantity comes only after you are on track.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
SamTheHobit
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Once i figured out all the marriage builders stuff i keep posting about I had to learn to be a bit more masculine (raised by a single mom bleh). This site helped me with that.
This site .. coupled with marriage builders has REALLY ramped up the interest levels of my wife... the MB stuff helped my wife learn how important sex is to men as conversation is to women (they are prety much equal emotionally) and how both of us can navigate our relationship in a manner that benefits BOTH of us on a consistant basis. MB also helped my wife figure out herself also so she could help me learn what she needs. (we both just winged it and only did what came naturally for each other which was not good enough)
Now .. I can BE A MAN and KILL MY DESPERATION when i need to since i never really learned how (was always desperate and always nice .. but not no more haha), because my parents cheated on each other and my dad left, and I know how to be a great beta when its called for also (in small doses). Its all about balance. Give and Take in equal proportions.
After all this time .. our marriage and relationship is better than ever! I have both MB and SS to thank.. its balance of beta .. and alpha. My kids are very thankful we never got divorced .. never cheated ... and figured out how to have a normal healthy fun and exciting marriage.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.