You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
After some time you will get tired of chasing chick and only wanting sex.aron77 said:I'm just curious why ppl come here. It seems like many just want to bang as many chicks as possible and don't want to actually settle into a relationship.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Man you nailed me, demotivated and frustrated with women cuz I don't have the tools. Very good response!Who Dares Win said:While banging huge amounts of women is not the end goal its a necessary step to develop solid self-confidence and healthy mind and body.
Please lets avoid the bvllsh1t where you can be perfectly happy and have a high self esteem while you cannot even pick up some decent girl, its a necessity for the body to satisfy libido and a necessity for your mind to have some confirmation of your value.
Actually the quantity and quality of women available to you is one of the many bench marks for which a man can evaluate himself, social skills and confidence first.
Now your question OP, I believe most of the guys come here simply because they didnt receive the tools to interact with women and are demotivated and frustrated, deciding if you want quality or quantity comes only after you are on track.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.