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PinkBear
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What is it?
Personally, I like to watch others talking sh!t.
Personally, I like to watch others talking sh!t.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I found this site whilst I was looking for a "just got dumped guide". So far it has been a brilliant find, and has helped me out soooo much. If it wasn't for this site I'd be phoning and begging her constantly like a b1tch. I'm 3 weeks in with NC now and am gradually starting to feel better. It's hard don't get me wrong; but I know it's right.
zekko
Master Don Juan
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I came here to learn sh!t, but when I got here I was appalled at how little original knowledge there was here. Most of the useful things were variations of stuff I had heard when I was a kid. I was hoping that there were real, you know, secrets here. That was probably naive of me.
If they would have had this site when I was younger, I probably would have gotten a lot more out of it. When my girlfriend in high school dumped me, do you know how I had to learn not to phone her and beg her like a b!tch? I actually phoned her and begged her like a b!tch. That taught me that not only does that not work, but you also degrade yourself and lose all your self respect. Glad your path was easier.adam225 said:
Skyline
Master Don Juan
I found this site looking up BPD and stumbled upon Brad's Master DJ guide on how to spot one.
Even though i was sort of figuring stuff out, I'm glad I ever found this site or i would of been an AFC for a whole while longer.
Even though i was sort of figuring stuff out, I'm glad I ever found this site or i would of been an AFC for a whole while longer.
blind_one
Master Don Juan
Good job OP, your pool made me laugh ! Props for that.
Learning is my purpose and now also giving out honest opinions and advice where my low-moderate experience allows it :rockon: .
I visit these forums more again !
Learning is my purpose and now also giving out honest opinions and advice where my low-moderate experience allows it :rockon: .
I visit these forums more again !
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Tomthebomb
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To give advice.
I come here because sometimes the posts here prompt me to think about things, and then I write them here or on my blog for my own analysis. I find that when I write stuff out it makes me think about it in more depth.
The comments in response to my posts are uniformely unintelligent -- most blatantly so -- so I don't attempt to take anything away from the replies. But coming to a forum (here or elsewhere) to put thoughts into words is very important for learning IMHO.
The RSD forums, which I've been posting in for the last couple of weeks, have a younger and overall higher quality level of user. They actually have decent mods and so they're aren't inundated with loons, trolls and "manosphere" damage cases. Most of the guys there are actually trying to think logically.
The comments in response to my posts are uniformely unintelligent -- most blatantly so -- so I don't attempt to take anything away from the replies. But coming to a forum (here or elsewhere) to put thoughts into words is very important for learning IMHO.
The RSD forums, which I've been posting in for the last couple of weeks, have a younger and overall higher quality level of user. They actually have decent mods and so they're aren't inundated with loons, trolls and "manosphere" damage cases. Most of the guys there are actually trying to think logically.