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PinkBear
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What is it?
Personally, I like to watch others talking sh!t.
Personally, I like to watch others talking sh!t.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I found this site whilst I was looking for a "just got dumped guide". So far it has been a brilliant find, and has helped me out soooo much. If it wasn't for this site I'd be phoning and begging her constantly like a b1tch. I'm 3 weeks in with NC now and am gradually starting to feel better. It's hard don't get me wrong; but I know it's right.
zekko
Master Don Juan
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I came here to learn sh!t, but when I got here I was appalled at how little original knowledge there was here. Most of the useful things were variations of stuff I had heard when I was a kid. I was hoping that there were real, you know, secrets here. That was probably naive of me.
If they would have had this site when I was younger, I probably would have gotten a lot more out of it. When my girlfriend in high school dumped me, do you know how I had to learn not to phone her and beg her like a b!tch? I actually phoned her and begged her like a b!tch. That taught me that not only does that not work, but you also degrade yourself and lose all your self respect. Glad your path was easier.adam225 said:
Skyline
Master Don Juan
I found this site looking up BPD and stumbled upon Brad's Master DJ guide on how to spot one.
Even though i was sort of figuring stuff out, I'm glad I ever found this site or i would of been an AFC for a whole while longer.
Even though i was sort of figuring stuff out, I'm glad I ever found this site or i would of been an AFC for a whole while longer.
blind_one
Master Don Juan
Good job OP, your pool made me laugh ! Props for that.
Learning is my purpose and now also giving out honest opinions and advice where my low-moderate experience allows it :rockon: .
I visit these forums more again !
Learning is my purpose and now also giving out honest opinions and advice where my low-moderate experience allows it :rockon: .
I visit these forums more again !
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Tomthebomb
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To give advice.
I come here because sometimes the posts here prompt me to think about things, and then I write them here or on my blog for my own analysis. I find that when I write stuff out it makes me think about it in more depth.
The comments in response to my posts are uniformely unintelligent -- most blatantly so -- so I don't attempt to take anything away from the replies. But coming to a forum (here or elsewhere) to put thoughts into words is very important for learning IMHO.
The RSD forums, which I've been posting in for the last couple of weeks, have a younger and overall higher quality level of user. They actually have decent mods and so they're aren't inundated with loons, trolls and "manosphere" damage cases. Most of the guys there are actually trying to think logically.
The comments in response to my posts are uniformely unintelligent -- most blatantly so -- so I don't attempt to take anything away from the replies. But coming to a forum (here or elsewhere) to put thoughts into words is very important for learning IMHO.
The RSD forums, which I've been posting in for the last couple of weeks, have a younger and overall higher quality level of user. They actually have decent mods and so they're aren't inundated with loons, trolls and "manosphere" damage cases. Most of the guys there are actually trying to think logically.