I've been reading a bunch of red pill stuff and realized that I never really defined my desired end goal...what an oversight! In every other area of my life (fitness, career, money etc) I have goals. These may not be well defined (ex. I want to put on muscle, I don't have an end number in mind), but I at least have general outlines of where I want to be versus where I am now.
My last 'relationship' was with a girl that was crazy in love with me one moment and evil incarnate seconds later. I put up with this sh!t for way too long and I think that part of the reason for this was that I didn't really know where I wanted things to end up with her. Was I looking for a LTR? If I was, she was NOT the person for that and I should have ended it sooner than I did. Was I looking for a plate? If I was, I should have played it differently and not *put up with it* but basically treated her like a plate.
Now I know what I want: to take my time finding someone I actually care about. This means not falling for the next thing that comes around, but actively meeting women, developing plates and learning what makes me happy.
Where does this end for you? When will you stop visiting SS? What is success in a year / 10 years?
My last 'relationship' was with a girl that was crazy in love with me one moment and evil incarnate seconds later. I put up with this sh!t for way too long and I think that part of the reason for this was that I didn't really know where I wanted things to end up with her. Was I looking for a LTR? If I was, she was NOT the person for that and I should have ended it sooner than I did. Was I looking for a plate? If I was, I should have played it differently and not *put up with it* but basically treated her like a plate.
Now I know what I want: to take my time finding someone I actually care about. This means not falling for the next thing that comes around, but actively meeting women, developing plates and learning what makes me happy.
Where does this end for you? When will you stop visiting SS? What is success in a year / 10 years?

