What is this?

[regular_guy]

I met this girl through a salsa class. Went out dancing twice, I never knew how she felt about me. I did not find her looks attractive at first, but when I danced and talked to her, she totally tuned me on. Now I find this girl sexy, I tried to play it kewl, avoiding boring topics when we went out for coffee. I think I told her way too much on the first meet. But I never even done that in my life (so I feel proud). During the second dance outing, I told her to get out of the car as I did not know how to go about kissing her, I got uncomfortable and pussied out. I called her after that incident and apologized, she said its okay. I see her attraction for me leading more and more into the friends zone now. My pussines basically messed things up, because I did not take action. What should I do? How can I be friends with someone I fancy? She actually called me to chit-chat, and I did not call her back, did not want to fall for her. I am trying to get laid without having a relationship? Wtf? Sounds like an ego trip. I would like to know if there is anything there or was there, or should I just forget about her and move on. Only thing is that I see her occasionally at a salsa class. Last time I spoke to her, I was a mumbling idiot. She seemed disappointed. She is 4 years older than me, I am 24.

Cheers

Edit: also I think about her more than I would like to. But I have not told her any of this.

 

[War Against Betaism]

If you want to get her back, you should lay off of her for a while, like try not looking at her in a sexual way, and after a while try going after her again. And this time don't pvssy out

 

[regular_guy]

Well the last time I saw her, again I was a mumbling idiot. I actually signed up for a public speaking club “Toastmaters” to work on my communication. It’s great how much other skills I need to be good with the ladies and these skills can be applied to everything else too.

Any who, so I should treat her as a friend now? Because that seems very counter- intuitive to me. I was thinking of calling her and just saying hello and how she is doing, following her or my salsa class (we are in different classes now). I think this may be she may be a lost cause, I am thinking of going after other girls in the other salsa class. Try some flirting, fun, etc.

 

[War Against Betaism]

Not really treat her as a friend, just don't pursue her as hard as you did before. Do a lot of anticipating, which is taking 2 steps forward, 1 step back. Like hold hands, then kino her a lot, then go back to just holding hands, and then so on and so forth.

 

[regular_guy]

Have you ever seen salsa? I mean there is lots of kino, the dance relys on human contact and males lead. I think what you are saying I need to do mentaly, maybe send mixed signals? I have a little hard time doing it though, when I want to sleep with her. Need a more productive mind-set.