lokariototal
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What is it? Caring too much of what she thinks? Why do I care? Lack of self acceptance?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What is the root and cause of fear if rejection?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
...your ego and your mind. They usually hold you back to protect your feelings from being hurt and when their hurt it makes you feel your of lesser value so you can stay away from whatever you attempted that caused rejection or failure because it doesn't want it to happen again. Society like the media and how you were raised shapes your ego. Whatever works is a confidence booster for your ego whatever doesn't is not so it hold you back. This can be bad and AFCs have to condition their ego and mind to think rejections not a big deal, relax, your still alive live the moment and go with the flow.
Dante420
Master Don Juan
Conditioning
The real reason people fear rejection
Our brains are still wired for life thousands of years ago when we lived in small tribes. Evolution has not caught up with technology and society yet. One of the consequences of this is that fear of rejection you have.
Here's why you have that fear:
Back when we lived in small tribes there weren't a whole lot of women around that were your age and primed for procreating. Some were too old, too young, sick, pregnant, whatever. so out of the 100 or so people, only half were women and most of them weren't candidates for mating.
So say you're in your tribe and you see a girl you like but you have that fear. The fear is protecting you.
For one, she might have a bf that will get 5 of his friends to club you to death if he sees you talking to his girl. Literally there is a risk of death in this situation. The fear is helping you stay alive.
Even if she is single and you approach but she shoots you down, she'll go and tell all of her friends (the rest of the girls that are single and within age range to mate with you) that you're a loser and they won't like you either. So now all of the girls in your tribe don't like you and you have no hope of passing on your genes. Epic fail.
That's why the fear of rejection exists, but as you can see, it is clearly out dated. We live in towns and cities now with thousands of people. We also have laws protecting us from harm. So the threat of be excommunicated by all the women in your area no longer exists, nor the threat of being killed by the "alpha male" for talking to his woman.
It is for these reasons that we have to push past that fear. It served us well in the past but is now obsolete.
Our brains are still wired for life thousands of years ago when we lived in small tribes. Evolution has not caught up with technology and society yet. One of the consequences of this is that fear of rejection you have.
Here's why you have that fear:
Back when we lived in small tribes there weren't a whole lot of women around that were your age and primed for procreating. Some were too old, too young, sick, pregnant, whatever. so out of the 100 or so people, only half were women and most of them weren't candidates for mating.
So say you're in your tribe and you see a girl you like but you have that fear. The fear is protecting you.
For one, she might have a bf that will get 5 of his friends to club you to death if he sees you talking to his girl. Literally there is a risk of death in this situation. The fear is helping you stay alive.
Even if she is single and you approach but she shoots you down, she'll go and tell all of her friends (the rest of the girls that are single and within age range to mate with you) that you're a loser and they won't like you either. So now all of the girls in your tribe don't like you and you have no hope of passing on your genes. Epic fail.
That's why the fear of rejection exists, but as you can see, it is clearly out dated. We live in towns and cities now with thousands of people. We also have laws protecting us from harm. So the threat of be excommunicated by all the women in your area no longer exists, nor the threat of being killed by the "alpha male" for talking to his woman.
It is for these reasons that we have to push past that fear. It served us well in the past but is now obsolete.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
That sounds like a bunch of hooey. Everyone just wants to be liked and being told someone doesn't like you sucks.
That fear of death explanation doesn't explain why women are afraid of rejection too. And save me further completely made up possible explanations.
That fear of death explanation doesn't explain why women are afraid of rejection too. And save me further completely made up possible explanations.
LOL. Don't pretend to be a scientist.Blank said:Our brains are still wired for life thousands of years ago when we lived in small tribes. Evolution has not caught up with technology and society yet. One of the consequences of this is that fear of rejection you have.
Here's why you have that fear:
Back when we lived in small tribes there weren't a whole lot of women around that were your age and primed for procreating. Some were too old, too young, sick, pregnant, whatever. so out of the 100 or so people, only half were women and most of them weren't candidates for mating.
So say you're in your tribe and you see a girl you like but you have that fear. The fear is protecting you.
For one, she might have a bf that will get 5 of his friends to club you to death if he sees you talking to his girl. Literally there is a risk of death in this situation. The fear is helping you stay alive.
Even if she is single and you approach but she shoots you down, she'll go and tell all of her friends (the rest of the girls that are single and within age range to mate with you) that you're a loser and they won't like you either. So now all of the girls in your tribe don't like you and you have no hope of passing on your genes. Epic fail.
That's why the fear of rejection exists, but as you can see, it is clearly out dated. We live in towns and cities now with thousands of people. We also have laws protecting us from harm. So the threat of be excommunicated by all the women in your area no longer exists, nor the threat of being killed by the "alpha male" for talking to his woman.
It is for these reasons that we have to push past that fear. It served us well in the past but is now obsolete.
Kupid Diggs
Don Juan
Wow after reading all that I just have one question for you. WTF are you talking about??? :crazy: LoL...Blank said:Our brains are still wired for life thousands of years ago when we lived in small tribes. Evolution has not caught up with technology and society yet. One of the consequences of this is that fear of rejection you have.
Here's why you have that fear:
Back when we lived in small tribes there weren't a whole lot of women around that were your age and primed for procreating. Some were too old, too young, sick, pregnant, whatever. so out of the 100 or so people, only half were women and most of them weren't candidates for mating.
So say you're in your tribe and you see a girl you like but you have that fear. The fear is protecting you.
For one, she might have a bf that will get 5 of his friends to club you to death if he sees you talking to his girl. Literally there is a risk of death in this situation. The fear is helping you stay alive.
Even if she is single and you approach but she shoots you down, she'll go and tell all of her friends (the rest of the girls that are single and within age range to mate with you) that you're a loser and they won't like you either. So now all of the girls in your tribe don't like you and you have no hope of passing on your genes. Epic fail.
That's why the fear of rejection exists, but as you can see, it is clearly out dated. We live in towns and cities now with thousands of people. We also have laws protecting us from harm. So the threat of be excommunicated by all the women in your area no longer exists, nor the threat of being killed by the "alpha male" for talking to his woman.
It is for these reasons that we have to push past that fear. It served us well in the past but is now obsolete.