"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What is the point of making social connections?

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I go out down town enough that I know some guys who own bars, are well-known bartenders, etc.

I feel no desire to make friends with these people and have had ample opportunity.

I mean, if they're nice guys, I'll say "hey" to them while I'm there, but I'm not looking to use them to climb the social ladder. I don't give a fvck if you're some small-time DJ or anything like that, it isn't important in my life. I'm beginning to realize how fake the entire down town scene actually is, but unfortunately, it's the place to be.

Other notes to add: When I go out, I see that probably 95% of girls/women out there are not worth my time and it's not worth getting to know/putting up with their **** just for a chance at sticking my **** in them. I'd almost rather sit by myself.

I'm not sure what the purpose of this post is other than to ramble. It's Friday and I didn't go out because I slept all day. I generally don't like going out on Fridays and Saturdays because it's too crowded and filled with idiots. I much prefer Tuesdays, Sundays, etc.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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bigneil

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Ooh, you've had the opportunity to become friends with bartenders?

You're too good for them.

However, it does help when you take a date out and she sees that other men and women like you and know you by name.
 

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I do rideshare around UCI...lots of interesting smart people....try a near by college!

Plus, the chicks are smoking Hot hot hot!!!!:p
 
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