"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What is the point of making social connections?

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I go out down town enough that I know some guys who own bars, are well-known bartenders, etc.

I feel no desire to make friends with these people and have had ample opportunity.

I mean, if they're nice guys, I'll say "hey" to them while I'm there, but I'm not looking to use them to climb the social ladder. I don't give a fvck if you're some small-time DJ or anything like that, it isn't important in my life. I'm beginning to realize how fake the entire down town scene actually is, but unfortunately, it's the place to be.

Other notes to add: When I go out, I see that probably 95% of girls/women out there are not worth my time and it's not worth getting to know/putting up with their **** just for a chance at sticking my **** in them. I'd almost rather sit by myself.

I'm not sure what the purpose of this post is other than to ramble. It's Friday and I didn't go out because I slept all day. I generally don't like going out on Fridays and Saturdays because it's too crowded and filled with idiots. I much prefer Tuesdays, Sundays, etc.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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bigneil

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Ooh, you've had the opportunity to become friends with bartenders?

You're too good for them.

However, it does help when you take a date out and she sees that other men and women like you and know you by name.
 

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I do rideshare around UCI...lots of interesting smart people....try a near by college!

Plus, the chicks are smoking Hot hot hot!!!!:p
 
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