"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What is the perfect relationship?

The Duke

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If you could have any type of relationship, what would that be and why?

Marriage, two live in girlfriends, plates, wife and a side piece, multiple wives, random girls changed out every few months, hookers, sugar babies, ltrs, etc.

Having tried most types of relationships, the most enjoyable has been a solid ltr. But seems like after I hit the 3yr mark things begin to decline. Things get boring, they stop trying as hard, and the arguments begin. A new girl every two years would be the sweet spot for me. I don't want them to live with me either. Getting too old for that. Sucks the fun and suspense out of the relationship as well.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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LTR with own places

Funny enough, all my relationships have been around 3 years before I move on.
It's interesting that you develop requirements/standards with each past relationship.

-Educated, but not traditional
-Traditional and educated, but not fun
-Traditional, educated, fun, but doesn't make enough money
-I'm here right now
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-Big tits
 

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The ideal relationship for me currently would be a woman with a high sex drive and a high attraction to me who wants to have sex all the time and not spend tons of money.

In the future I may want to be a wealthy guy in a big house with 3 wives/girlfriends and four ways every week.
 

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So far I'm happy in a regular marriage, we've been together for 7 years and married the last 3. I know this isn't the solution for everyone and I would never pressure anyone else to marry though. Whatever works for you and makes your life enjoyable is the right choice in the end.

I wanted kids too and besides a LTR without marrying, I don't find the other options to be healthy alternatives unless the relationship just doesn't work out in the long run. Ideally they'll have a mom and dad who actually loves each other though.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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mrskinnypantz

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I'd want a solid rotation with 2 atleast cute (6's or 7's) ideally switching out every year or 2 and only keeping around the cute ones that show high ,consistent interest and effort .
No live in girls
I would still date hot women with kids but they would have to live in their own place.
No live in women with kids.
 

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A series of 2-3 year long LTRs, ideally dating a second women or at least having a side chick for the first 6 months or so. I would never move in with them. I also don't agree that most relationships can last more than 3-6 years or so, but it's certainly possible.

In terms of the nature of the relationship, it has to be with a girl who I genuinely enjoy being around and who makes my life easier and makes me feel more confident as a man.
 
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Having tried most types of relationships, the most enjoyable has been a solid ltr. But seems like after I hit the 3yr mark things begin to decline. Things get boring, they stop trying as hard, and the arguments begin. A new girl every two years would be the sweet spot for me. I don't want them to live with me either. Getting too old for that. Sucks the fun and suspense out of the relationship as well.
This is closest to what I want. Somewhere between 2-5 years.

A series of 2-3 year long LTRs, ideally dating a second women or at least having a side chick for the first 6 months or so. I would never move in with them. I also don't agree that most relationships can last more than 3-6 years or so, but it's certainly possible.

In terms of the nature of the relationship, it has to be with a girl who I genuinely enjoy being around and who makes me life easier and makes me feel more confident as a man.
It seems like you also believe in my idea that romantic relationships have a shelf life of goodness of about 5 years.
 

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Advice from the old lady:

Life partner type LTR is my ideal. A relationship that is stable, sex on tap, sexy attractive man that I can laugh with, live with and do life with. Pretty much got that going on now. We’re engaged, which frankly I’m ambivalent about being married at this point having already done the whole marriage and kids thing but marriage is important to him so it’s cool. Means more asset protection paperwork but that’s fine.

If this were not to work that is still my ideal and I’m unconcerned about finding in time a similar situation.

Kinda the lovers, best friends, life & mischief partner scenario works for me :)
 

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Advice from the old lady:

Life partner type LTR is my ideal. A relationship that is stable, sex on tap, sexy attractive man that I can laugh with, live with and do life with. Pretty much got that going on now. We’re engaged, which frankly I’m ambivalent about being married at this point having already done the whole marriage and kids thing but marriage is important to him so it’s cool. Means more asset protection paperwork but that’s fine.

If this were not to work that is still my ideal and I’m unconcerned about finding in time a similar situation.

Kinda the lovers, best friends, life & mischief partner scenario works for me :)
Glad to hear you got engaged - congrats :)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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