"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What is the most valuable tip or advice tip received on SS?

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If you say "She's hard to read" she absolutely, 100% does not have interest in you.

The second the thought "She's hard to read" enters your mind, prepare your exit strategy. An interested, worthwhile girl makes it abundantly clear that she likes you. If she's interested in you, she will move mountains to see you and be with you.

Naturally, right at the beginning there can exist a gray area where you're determining her interest, but when your interactions become more established you need to cut away any woman that you think is "hard to read".

There are no exceptions. No man here on SS deserves a woman who is "hard to read". Even if she does like you and is playing games, this is not a woman who will add value to your life.

Get "She's hard to read" out of your life altogether! It is a disqualifier.
 

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If you say "She's hard to read" she absolutely, 100% does not have interest in you.

The second the thought "She's hard to read" enters your mind, prepare your exit strategy. An interested, worthwhile girl makes it abundantly clear that she likes you. If she's interested in you, she will move mountains to see you and be with you.

Naturally, right at the beginning there can exist a gray area where you're determining her interest, but when your interactions become more established you need to cut away any woman that you think is "hard to read".

There are no exceptions. No man here on SS deserves a woman who is "hard to read". Even if she does like you and is playing games, this is not a woman who will add value to your life.

Get "She's hard to read" out of your life altogether! It is a disqualifier.
This ..

and it isn't worth the anxiety/mental energy it causes either .. (at least for me)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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1) A man cannot be universally attractive like women can. Given that fact, only pursue women who show interest. Don't try to manufacture interest. This is a colossal waste of time. Work within the subset of women who like your type.

2) Abundance mentality is paramount.

3) Never, ever allow yourself to be dumped. When you see it coming deploy a preemptive strike and dump her first.

Best sh!t I've read here in months! 110% agree.
 

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If you say "She's hard to read" she absolutely, 100% does not have interest in you.

The second the thought "She's hard to read" enters your mind, prepare your exit strategy. An interested, worthwhile girl makes it abundantly clear that she likes you. If she's interested in you, she will move mountains to see you and be with you.

Naturally, right at the beginning there can exist a gray area where you're determining her interest, but when your interactions become more established you need to cut away any woman that you think is "hard to read".

There are no exceptions. No man here on SS deserves a woman who is "hard to read". Even if she does like you and is playing games, this is not a woman who will add value to your life.

Get "She's hard to read" out of your life altogether! It is a disqualifier.

im not sure i entirely agree with this

women are naturally "hard to read" some less than others yes but no woman is as straight forward as you assume doesnt matter how interested she is because at the end of the day they are all emotional time bombs just waiting to blow

this is comming straight out of the horses motuh , ive dealt with A LOT of chicks
 

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Read my post:

"Naturally, right at the beginning there can exist a gray area where you're determining her interest..."

At age 58 you could say I've dealt with one or two chicks myself. ;)

I agree that they are time bombs and anything can happen at any time. My point, however, is that it is a colossal waste of time to continue with a woman who persistently plays coy with you. A woman's role is to submit, and her submission first and foremost entails surrendering to you and revealing her feelings for you. That of course is why we always preach here that a man should never verbally reveal his liking of a woman to her. His job is to cause her to submit. It sets a very important precedent for the relationship.

A man with any kind of insight at all can train himself to see the signals a woman is sending. For me, women are as transparent as glass. Some give stronger signals than others, but the bottom line for me is that I have no time to waste with women who try to string me along.

In conclusion, I say that if a man is going for any length of time thinking, "She's hard to read", he is wasting his time. The ONLY women who are hard to read (after that initial brief period) are ones who are not interested enough.
 

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In conclusion, I say that if a man is going for any length of time thinking, "She's hard to read", he is wasting his time. The ONLY women who are hard to read (after that initial brief period) are ones who are not interested enough.
yes agreed i usually give a girl around 2-3 weeks in which she has ample opportuinty to prove her interest to me whilst spinning multiple other plates of course
 

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That seems entirely reasonable to me.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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good stuff from wdw, atom and bradd (glad to see you posting again).

I have another one to add

- Just do it with no hesitation.

For example, if you want to kiss your girl, the time is right (and not awkward ) grab her hand, pull her in close and kiss her.

Hesitation leads to masturbation (hey thats cool if you're into jerking it versus being jerked by some hot girl). Plus, hesitating in any situation creates two things 1) unneeded stress 2) it makes you look weak/awkward/ creepy.

So if you're thinking about doing something and start to hesitate, relax, breathe, and just do it smoothly.
 

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Don't develop the negative mindset that there are no good women out there, because there are. But they are the exception to today's typical woman, not the norm. And the good ones are very, very hard to come by.
 

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Sometimes you need to follow your heart, and sometimes your head, and sometimes your d1ck.

-W.M.
 

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"Game" was cleverly devised to protect the (hurt) ego from the truth, which is ----There is no "game." All that exists is your Sexual Market Value (SMV) and where YOU are positioned within this sexual marketplace (SMP). If you are a 5, you can chase 8s all day, and may even position yourself as the "exception" with this higher-rated contender. But WHEN (not if) that relation ends, you WILL eventually accept your SMV fate.

Smarter strategy to focus ALL your efforts in maximizing your SMV and capitalizing your equitable share in the SMP.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Always be willing to walk away
Simple, but IMO one of the most important rules when dealing with the ladies. Always be willing to walk away at any point. Whether it's the first meet or you're 6 months in.
 
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