"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What is the more Don Juan thing to do?

Some Call Me Tim

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Hey everybody,

Basically tomorrow I've got to perform a duty for the university with my ex. It's a routine thing and everybody does it. I'm not going in tomorrow for my own reasons. She has no showed on this duty several times with no heads up. Speaking on a very small scale here, what is the more Don Juan thing to do? Tell her, or not tell her?

Way I see it, both are fairly Don Juan in their own ways and I don't have a preference either way.

What do you all think?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SandHawk

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Just go in, give her a friendly "Hi" if she's there and then do your thing. Don't announce you're going, because you don't care whether she's there or not. You're going there to perform your "duty".

Don't stare at her, don't fully ignore her either, when spoken to, answer in short friendly answers. If she's asks you how you are, just respond with "I'm fine, thank you", and if you're ok with some small talk, you could return the favour and ask how she's doing.

Just be a man and do it. I still dance with a girl that I broke up with over half a year ago, girl is still trembling when she has to dance with me. But I just dance with her, because I am man enough to carry my loss without breaking down.
 

Chimera

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Don't refrain from telling her that you're not going if it's gonna make whatever she has to do for the university any more difficult. That's just common courtesy, dude. Don't be a prick.
 

hansol

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Just like it said in The Godfather: "It's not personal, it's business."

The University gig is business. Don't let your personal relationships screw up taking care of business. In this case it doesn't matter what your ex did or didn't do, it's that you aren't going to be there for the university gig. As such, say so. Don't let personal reasons conflict with making a business decision.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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