"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What is the more Don Juan thing to do?

Some Call Me Tim

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Hey everybody,

Basically tomorrow I've got to perform a duty for the university with my ex. It's a routine thing and everybody does it. I'm not going in tomorrow for my own reasons. She has no showed on this duty several times with no heads up. Speaking on a very small scale here, what is the more Don Juan thing to do? Tell her, or not tell her?

Way I see it, both are fairly Don Juan in their own ways and I don't have a preference either way.

What do you all think?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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SandHawk

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Just go in, give her a friendly "Hi" if she's there and then do your thing. Don't announce you're going, because you don't care whether she's there or not. You're going there to perform your "duty".

Don't stare at her, don't fully ignore her either, when spoken to, answer in short friendly answers. If she's asks you how you are, just respond with "I'm fine, thank you", and if you're ok with some small talk, you could return the favour and ask how she's doing.

Just be a man and do it. I still dance with a girl that I broke up with over half a year ago, girl is still trembling when she has to dance with me. But I just dance with her, because I am man enough to carry my loss without breaking down.
 

Chimera

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Don't refrain from telling her that you're not going if it's gonna make whatever she has to do for the university any more difficult. That's just common courtesy, dude. Don't be a prick.
 

hansol

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Just like it said in The Godfather: "It's not personal, it's business."

The University gig is business. Don't let your personal relationships screw up taking care of business. In this case it doesn't matter what your ex did or didn't do, it's that you aren't going to be there for the university gig. As such, say so. Don't let personal reasons conflict with making a business decision.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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