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What is the more Don Juan thing to do?

Some Call Me Tim

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Hey everybody,

Basically tomorrow I've got to perform a duty for the university with my ex. It's a routine thing and everybody does it. I'm not going in tomorrow for my own reasons. She has no showed on this duty several times with no heads up. Speaking on a very small scale here, what is the more Don Juan thing to do? Tell her, or not tell her?

Way I see it, both are fairly Don Juan in their own ways and I don't have a preference either way.

What do you all think?
 

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SandHawk

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Just go in, give her a friendly "Hi" if she's there and then do your thing. Don't announce you're going, because you don't care whether she's there or not. You're going there to perform your "duty".

Don't stare at her, don't fully ignore her either, when spoken to, answer in short friendly answers. If she's asks you how you are, just respond with "I'm fine, thank you", and if you're ok with some small talk, you could return the favour and ask how she's doing.

Just be a man and do it. I still dance with a girl that I broke up with over half a year ago, girl is still trembling when she has to dance with me. But I just dance with her, because I am man enough to carry my loss without breaking down.
 

Chimera

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Don't refrain from telling her that you're not going if it's gonna make whatever she has to do for the university any more difficult. That's just common courtesy, dude. Don't be a prick.
 

hansol

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Just like it said in The Godfather: "It's not personal, it's business."

The University gig is business. Don't let your personal relationships screw up taking care of business. In this case it doesn't matter what your ex did or didn't do, it's that you aren't going to be there for the university gig. As such, say so. Don't let personal reasons conflict with making a business decision.
 

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The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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