"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What is the best way to invite yourself back to HER PLACE to chill?
- Thread starter Zero Hero
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
LA_Chico
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If you want to be invited up to her place, ask her about it. Ask stuff like how many rooms does she have, how does the kitchen look like, how is the view from her place, how does her room like you etc.... the more you ask about it, the more interested you seem to be and in the end of it you say something " hmmm sounds like you live in an interesting place, I wouldn't mind seeing it with my own eyes" and most likely you will get an invitation.Zero Hero said:
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Read it again. He wants the chick to ask him over to her place. You should tell the truth (it's the easiest thing to remember) and let her know off the bat your situation. If she's not cool with you hanging at her place don't make any excuses or cry about it just tell her you'll have her at your new and improved place when you can. Don't pressure her or you'll look like a fvcking sissymary who is fvcking clingy. Then you have zero chance at anything other than a hug.LA_Chico said:
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"So when are you going to invite me over to see your place?"
If you want to be a little less direct, you could make up somethin
"My roommates are driving me crazy! I need to get out of here!"
or just
"I really feel like getting out of here. Mind if I stop by your place for a bit?"
however if you invite yourself over, don't stay long unless things are going really well. pay attention to her body language and her mood.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.