"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What is the best way to invite yourself back to HER PLACE to chill?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
LA_Chico
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If you want to be invited up to her place, ask her about it. Ask stuff like how many rooms does she have, how does the kitchen look like, how is the view from her place, how does her room like you etc.... the more you ask about it, the more interested you seem to be and in the end of it you say something " hmmm sounds like you live in an interesting place, I wouldn't mind seeing it with my own eyes" and most likely you will get an invitation.Zero Hero said:
KarmaSutra
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Read it again. He wants the chick to ask him over to her place. You should tell the truth (it's the easiest thing to remember) and let her know off the bat your situation. If she's not cool with you hanging at her place don't make any excuses or cry about it just tell her you'll have her at your new and improved place when you can. Don't pressure her or you'll look like a fvcking sissymary who is fvcking clingy. Then you have zero chance at anything other than a hug.LA_Chico said:
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"So when are you going to invite me over to see your place?"
If you want to be a little less direct, you could make up somethin
"My roommates are driving me crazy! I need to get out of here!"
or just
"I really feel like getting out of here. Mind if I stop by your place for a bit?"
however if you invite yourself over, don't stay long unless things are going really well. pay attention to her body language and her mood.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.