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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

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What is stockiness determined by?

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My friends have recently started to tell me I'm looking stockier and stockier everyday. They say that my muscles look really good but when I have my clothes on, I look like a "buff midget".
I mainly work out to look good, so it quite bothers me.

I'm not short (5'9, but I've had some people telling me I look more 5'7-8) nor really heavy (155 lbs, with a really small frame [my wrist is 6"]), so I don't know what may be the cause of my stockiness, but I actually look larger and shorter than most folks.


Any ideas?
 

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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

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Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You mediterranean?
its in the genes.
 

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Originally posted by MrS
You mediterranean?
its in the genes.

I am, but I don't look such (blue eyes, fair skin, high cheekbones. People often mistake me for English, Austrian or, really often, French), probably because I have a vast heritage.

So, I have to choose between being skinny or being stocky?
 
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Wait, so you would rather be short and like a twig instead of short and buff? Hmm....

Your "stockyness" is because you are short. It's in the genes.

And at 5'9 you are above the average height. Maybe its because you've been hanging around with tall people.
 

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Originally posted by brucevangeorge
Wait, so you would rather be short and like a twig instead of short and buff? Hmm....

Your "stockyness" is because you are short. It's in the genes.

And at 5'9 you are above the average height. Maybe its because you've been hanging around with tall people.

You say that I'm stocky because I'm short, but then you say that I'm above average height:)

Anyway, I'm not referring to that kind of stockiness, I know some 6'0+ guys who are muscular and look stocky, not necessarily short, but shorter than they are, because they are large, so it takes away their height. It's not a problem to them because they are already tall, but since I'm borderline short, I wouldn't want to look even shorter.

Well, who cares, I'll keep bulking and I'll beat the shìt out of everyone who dares to call me stocky:D
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

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Originally posted by Adone
Well, who cares, I'll keep bulking and I'll beat the shìt out of everyone who dares to call me stocky:D
And what's so wrong about being stocky? You're built to powerlift, take advantage of it. Not everyone's got the symmetry/balance to be a pro bodybuilder (I know I don't) - do the absolute best with the hand you're dealt.
 

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Originally posted by Warboss Alex
And what's so wrong about being stocky? You're built to powerlift, take advantage of it. Not everyone's got the symmetry/balance to be a pro bodybuilder (I know I don't) - do the absolute best with the hand you're dealt.
The fact is I workout mainly to look good and I don't really like the stocky appearance... I know lots of chicks dig it, but they're not the reason I workout for.

Do you think that a lower bodyfat would help? Right now, I can see my abs just on an empty stomach, otherwise I have a bit of gut (I tend to store all my fat in the waist area). What do you think?
 

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If you can see your abs then your bodyfat is already too low for any further trimming down to drastically change the shape of you.

If it's your shape it's your shape man .. don't sweat it, do the best you can with what you've got and you'll be fine, I promise you.

Although by way of encouragement, wait 'til you've worked out a couple of years and got into your 'muscular' shape and then see what happens.. I changed shape drastically when I started putting muscle on.

Not everyone is a born herculean!
 

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Originally posted by Warboss Alex
If you can see your abs then your bodyfat is already too low for any further trimming down to drastically change the shape of you.

If it's your shape it's your shape man .. don't sweat it, do the best you can with what you've got and you'll be fine, I promise you.

Although by way of encouragement, wait 'til you've worked out a couple of years and got into your 'muscular' shape and then see what happens.. I changed shape drastically when I started putting muscle on.

Not everyone is a born herculean!

That's the problem, Alex, I've changed shape drastically since I started putting muscle on. I used to have a natural V-Tape, but since I started doing squats and bulking, my waist has grown a lot and now the V-Shape is gone. Do you think that something can be done to have it again?

I can see my abs just when I flex them and my stomach is empty, so I don't think my bodyfat is low enough yet. What do you think?
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

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Originally posted by Warboss Alex
EDIT - check your journal Adone.

I read it:D:D:D I agree with you, I'll probably have to cut some fat away
 
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