"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What is stockiness determined by?

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My friends have recently started to tell me I'm looking stockier and stockier everyday. They say that my muscles look really good but when I have my clothes on, I look like a "buff midget".
I mainly work out to look good, so it quite bothers me.

I'm not short (5'9, but I've had some people telling me I look more 5'7-8) nor really heavy (155 lbs, with a really small frame [my wrist is 6"]), so I don't know what may be the cause of my stockiness, but I actually look larger and shorter than most folks.


Any ideas?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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You mediterranean?
its in the genes.
 
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Originally posted by MrS
You mediterranean?
its in the genes.
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I am, but I don't look such (blue eyes, fair skin, high cheekbones. People often mistake me for English, Austrian or, really often, French), probably because I have a vast heritage.

So, I have to choose between being skinny or being stocky?
 
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Wait, so you would rather be short and like a twig instead of short and buff? Hmm....

Your "stockyness" is because you are short. It's in the genes.

And at 5'9 you are above the average height. Maybe its because you've been hanging around with tall people.
 
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Originally posted by brucevangeorge
Wait, so you would rather be short and like a twig instead of short and buff? Hmm....

Your "stockyness" is because you are short. It's in the genes.

And at 5'9 you are above the average height. Maybe its because you've been hanging around with tall people.
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You say that I'm stocky because I'm short, but then you say that I'm above average height:)

Anyway, I'm not referring to that kind of stockiness, I know some 6'0+ guys who are muscular and look stocky, not necessarily short, but shorter than they are, because they are large, so it takes away their height. It's not a problem to them because they are already tall, but since I'm borderline short, I wouldn't want to look even shorter.

Well, who cares, I'll keep bulking and I'll beat the shìt out of everyone who dares to call me stocky:D
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Adone
Well, who cares, I'll keep bulking and I'll beat the shìt out of everyone who dares to call me stocky:D
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And what's so wrong about being stocky? You're built to powerlift, take advantage of it. Not everyone's got the symmetry/balance to be a pro bodybuilder (I know I don't) - do the absolute best with the hand you're dealt.
 
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Originally posted by Warboss Alex
And what's so wrong about being stocky? You're built to powerlift, take advantage of it. Not everyone's got the symmetry/balance to be a pro bodybuilder (I know I don't) - do the absolute best with the hand you're dealt.
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The fact is I workout mainly to look good and I don't really like the stocky appearance... I know lots of chicks dig it, but they're not the reason I workout for.

Do you think that a lower bodyfat would help? Right now, I can see my abs just on an empty stomach, otherwise I have a bit of gut (I tend to store all my fat in the waist area). What do you think?
 
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If you can see your abs then your bodyfat is already too low for any further trimming down to drastically change the shape of you.

If it's your shape it's your shape man .. don't sweat it, do the best you can with what you've got and you'll be fine, I promise you.

Although by way of encouragement, wait 'til you've worked out a couple of years and got into your 'muscular' shape and then see what happens.. I changed shape drastically when I started putting muscle on.

Not everyone is a born herculean!
 
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Originally posted by Warboss Alex
If you can see your abs then your bodyfat is already too low for any further trimming down to drastically change the shape of you.

If it's your shape it's your shape man .. don't sweat it, do the best you can with what you've got and you'll be fine, I promise you.

Although by way of encouragement, wait 'til you've worked out a couple of years and got into your 'muscular' shape and then see what happens.. I changed shape drastically when I started putting muscle on.

Not everyone is a born herculean!
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That's the problem, Alex, I've changed shape drastically since I started putting muscle on. I used to have a natural V-Tape, but since I started doing squats and bulking, my waist has grown a lot and now the V-Shape is gone. Do you think that something can be done to have it again?

I can see my abs just when I flex them and my stomach is empty, so I don't think my bodyfat is low enough yet. What do you think?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by Warboss Alex
EDIT - check your journal Adone.
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I read it:D:D:D I agree with you, I'll probably have to cut some fat away
 
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