"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What is she actually saying?

ghostrider943

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She texted this: "looking into each others souls on that one fateful night" I don't know why you keep texting things like that. I have a boyfriend and I dont know you. and I don't know why you keep implying that i like you or something? yeah sorry if i sound harsh, but this needs to stop..

What should I do? Her actions tell me otherwise: when class ended she was looking at me when I was lingering near the exit possibly waiting for me to make a move. When I was break dancing outside of school i knew she was watching. When I first approached her she had high interest; strong eye contact, smiling. I just forgot to connect so she probably thinks Im a player.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Alphamale1821

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SIMPLE ANSWER NEXT HER SHE AIN'T INTERESTED. A chick can be interested in you at first but what sometimes if you don't make a move fast enough she will "stop considering" you and go back to what she had. MOVE ON and flirt with other chicks, the best way to get a chick back into you is to make her jealous and SHOW her what she is missing out on.
 

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ghostrider943 said:
She texted this: "looking into each others souls on that one fateful night" I don't know why you keep texting things like that. I have a boyfriend and I dont know you. and I don't know why you keep implying that i like you or something? yeah sorry if i sound harsh, but this needs to stop..

What should I do? Her actions tell me otherwise: when class ended she was looking at me when I was lingering near the exit possibly waiting for me to make a move. When I was break dancing outside of school i knew she was watching. When I first approached her she had high interest; strong eye contact, smiling. I just forgot to connect so she probably thinks Im a player.
Hopefully you didn't pull that line in quotes through a text message
 

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just stay away from her. She obviously doesn't like you. There's nothing else to say except that you're being an idiot thinking you still have a shot.
 

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ghostrider943 said:
when class ended she was looking at me when I was lingering near the exit possibly waiting for me to make a move.
That's spider activity right there. Never linger by a door waiting for a girl to have to pass by you so you can make a move. Not good.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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This is the answer to the whole situation.

First off, you texted that quote? :eek: You deserve a slap in the face! And you are grounded!

That may have made the girl get less interested and try to stand you up.

Next this b**ch. QUICKLY!!!

Why, you ask? Like Dongfu said, that waiting by the door sh*t to make a move, don't ever do that again. :nono: That can make a girl feel uncomfortable. I smell b**ch shields!!!:box:

And stop thinking you have a shot with this one. You don't. Point blank. Being persistent now will only make it worse. You're not in the friends category (btw, you'd be better off here. You'd have SOME chance of getting out.), you're in the CREEP ZONE! And you set off her stalker alarm by waiting by the door to strike! Double whammy! You're supposed to go down as an alpha male (prize), not as an AFC. That's what happened.

Look what you did.:down:

The sooner you leave this girl alone, the better.
 

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What she is actually saying:

"Contact me again and I'm filing a restraining order."
 

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ghostrider943 said:
"looking into each others souls on that one fateful night"
.....did you really say that?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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With a message as direct as that you will simply have to next until she re-establishes interest if ever.
 

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ghostrider943 said:
"looking into each others souls on that one fateful night"
Count up the times that line has worked, I'm really curious.
 
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ghostrider943 said:
She texted this: "looking into each others souls on that one fateful night" I don't know why you keep texting things like that. I have a boyfriend and I dont know you. and I don't know why you keep implying that i like you or something? yeah sorry if i sound harsh, but this needs to stop..
ghostrider943 said:
What is she actually saying?
I am psychic and I have the answer - she is saying this..

"looking into each others souls on that one fateful night" I don't know why you keep texting things like that. I have a boyfriend and I dont know you. and I don't know why you keep implying that i like you or something? yeah sorry if i sound harsh, but this needs to stop..

Get the hint kid, OR do you need a sledgehammer to bring the point home??? :rolleyes:
 

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No one is that AFC or whatever, i mean he hardly knows her, i don't think anyone would text a girl with those words, also how the hell did you get her number. I'm thinking through a friend or else she would not have said she doesn't know you.

Either way guys i think this guys a troll, like come on.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Unless it's your anniversary (that means dating her for at least a year) or you're giving a last-ditch effort to hold the relationship together, you never say "romantic" stuff like that. Besides, it just sounds way cheesy. Unless you say it really sarcastically and with a huge sh!t-eating grin on your face...which is hard to do in a text message.
 
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