"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What is she actually saying?

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She texted this: "looking into each others souls on that one fateful night" I don't know why you keep texting things like that. I have a boyfriend and I dont know you. and I don't know why you keep implying that i like you or something? yeah sorry if i sound harsh, but this needs to stop..

What should I do? Her actions tell me otherwise: when class ended she was looking at me when I was lingering near the exit possibly waiting for me to make a move. When I was break dancing outside of school i knew she was watching. When I first approached her she had high interest; strong eye contact, smiling. I just forgot to connect so she probably thinks Im a player.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SIMPLE ANSWER NEXT HER SHE AIN'T INTERESTED. A chick can be interested in you at first but what sometimes if you don't make a move fast enough she will "stop considering" you and go back to what she had. MOVE ON and flirt with other chicks, the best way to get a chick back into you is to make her jealous and SHOW her what she is missing out on.
 
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ghostrider943 said:
She texted this: "looking into each others souls on that one fateful night" I don't know why you keep texting things like that. I have a boyfriend and I dont know you. and I don't know why you keep implying that i like you or something? yeah sorry if i sound harsh, but this needs to stop..

What should I do? Her actions tell me otherwise: when class ended she was looking at me when I was lingering near the exit possibly waiting for me to make a move. When I was break dancing outside of school i knew she was watching. When I first approached her she had high interest; strong eye contact, smiling. I just forgot to connect so she probably thinks Im a player.
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Hopefully you didn't pull that line in quotes through a text message
 
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just stay away from her. She obviously doesn't like you. There's nothing else to say except that you're being an idiot thinking you still have a shot.
 
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ghostrider943 said:
when class ended she was looking at me when I was lingering near the exit possibly waiting for me to make a move.
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That's spider activity right there. Never linger by a door waiting for a girl to have to pass by you so you can make a move. Not good.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This is the answer to the whole situation.

First off, you texted that quote? :eek: You deserve a slap in the face! And you are grounded!

That may have made the girl get less interested and try to stand you up.

Next this b**ch. QUICKLY!!!

Why, you ask? Like Dongfu said, that waiting by the door sh*t to make a move, don't ever do that again. :nono: That can make a girl feel uncomfortable. I smell b**ch shields!!!:box:

And stop thinking you have a shot with this one. You don't. Point blank. Being persistent now will only make it worse. You're not in the friends category (btw, you'd be better off here. You'd have SOME chance of getting out.), you're in the CREEP ZONE! And you set off her stalker alarm by waiting by the door to strike! Double whammy! You're supposed to go down as an alpha male (prize), not as an AFC. That's what happened.

Look what you did.:down:

The sooner you leave this girl alone, the better.
 
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What she is actually saying:

"Contact me again and I'm filing a restraining order."
 
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ghostrider943 said:
"looking into each others souls on that one fateful night"
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.....did you really say that?
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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With a message as direct as that you will simply have to next until she re-establishes interest if ever.
 
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ghostrider943 said:
"looking into each others souls on that one fateful night"
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Count up the times that line has worked, I'm really curious.
 
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ghostrider943 said:
She texted this: "looking into each others souls on that one fateful night" I don't know why you keep texting things like that. I have a boyfriend and I dont know you. and I don't know why you keep implying that i like you or something? yeah sorry if i sound harsh, but this needs to stop..
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What is she actually saying?
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I am psychic and I have the answer - she is saying this..

"looking into each others souls on that one fateful night" I don't know why you keep texting things like that. I have a boyfriend and I dont know you. and I don't know why you keep implying that i like you or something? yeah sorry if i sound harsh, but this needs to stop..

Get the hint kid, OR do you need a sledgehammer to bring the point home??? :rolleyes:
 
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No one is that AFC or whatever, i mean he hardly knows her, i don't think anyone would text a girl with those words, also how the hell did you get her number. I'm thinking through a friend or else she would not have said she doesn't know you.

Either way guys i think this guys a troll, like come on.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Unless it's your anniversary (that means dating her for at least a year) or you're giving a last-ditch effort to hold the relationship together, you never say "romantic" stuff like that. Besides, it just sounds way cheesy. Unless you say it really sarcastically and with a huge sh!t-eating grin on your face...which is hard to do in a text message.
 
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