"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What is SELF-RESPECT?

Single4Life

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To me, Self-respect is :

- setting forth your morals, your character. discover who you are, and visualize the type of man you want to be, and then be it.

- abiding by them at all times, never compromising for an easier road or decision

- accepting yourself for exactly what you are, and never deviating from that path for anyone. this means that you must live a life that is ready to sacrifice friendships, possible lovers, etc... since some people will not mix with who you are.

- never allowing yourself to be a person ruled by the lower paths. Those of primal emotion, violence, jealousy, hatred, all of the things that come natural to humans, our "first" reactions. Conquer them so that you may always be in control and behave with class
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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LuisGarcia10

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For me, learning to always do your 100% best I'm everything you do, be it work, sports, relationships or anything else, will give you all the self respect you need.
Starting martial arts was the catalyst for me to do that, a lot has changed in the last 6 months!
 

roman81

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We are all alone, born alone, die alone, and in spite of True Romance magazines we shall all someday look back on our lives and see that, in spite of our company, we were alone the whole way. I do not say lonely, at least, not all the time, but essentially, and finally, alone. This is what makes your self-respect so important, and I don't see how you can respect yourself if you must look in the hearts and minds of others for your happiness.
 

SpareTimeDJ

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Self respect (in my definition):

Respect what you are and what you have done. Respect your abilities, your personality, your priorities, your goals, your body, your thoughts and feelings etc. Regard them as important and meaningful and treat yourself as any person you respect. You defend them withing reason, your are polite towards them, you value their opinion and so forth.

Self respect is treating yourself as a person you would respect!

Self respect can be expressed in credos like this one (one of my own ^^): Think for yourself, act on your own! (Meaning that you are not dependant on others to think things through, to make decisions and for activities. e.g. You want to go to the movies/zoo/bars but none of your friends are coming. Then you just go for yourself!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Credos

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Self-respect is dedicating yourself to your dreams without getting lost in the clutter for your own gratification.
 
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