"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What is SELF-RESPECT?

Single4Life

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To me, Self-respect is :

- setting forth your morals, your character. discover who you are, and visualize the type of man you want to be, and then be it.

- abiding by them at all times, never compromising for an easier road or decision

- accepting yourself for exactly what you are, and never deviating from that path for anyone. this means that you must live a life that is ready to sacrifice friendships, possible lovers, etc... since some people will not mix with who you are.

- never allowing yourself to be a person ruled by the lower paths. Those of primal emotion, violence, jealousy, hatred, all of the things that come natural to humans, our "first" reactions. Conquer them so that you may always be in control and behave with class
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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LuisGarcia10

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For me, learning to always do your 100% best I'm everything you do, be it work, sports, relationships or anything else, will give you all the self respect you need.
Starting martial arts was the catalyst for me to do that, a lot has changed in the last 6 months!
 

roman81

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We are all alone, born alone, die alone, and in spite of True Romance magazines we shall all someday look back on our lives and see that, in spite of our company, we were alone the whole way. I do not say lonely, at least, not all the time, but essentially, and finally, alone. This is what makes your self-respect so important, and I don't see how you can respect yourself if you must look in the hearts and minds of others for your happiness.
 

SpareTimeDJ

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Self respect (in my definition):

Respect what you are and what you have done. Respect your abilities, your personality, your priorities, your goals, your body, your thoughts and feelings etc. Regard them as important and meaningful and treat yourself as any person you respect. You defend them withing reason, your are polite towards them, you value their opinion and so forth.

Self respect is treating yourself as a person you would respect!

Self respect can be expressed in credos like this one (one of my own ^^): Think for yourself, act on your own! (Meaning that you are not dependant on others to think things through, to make decisions and for activities. e.g. You want to go to the movies/zoo/bars but none of your friends are coming. Then you just go for yourself!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Credos

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Self-respect is dedicating yourself to your dreams without getting lost in the clutter for your own gratification.
 
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