Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Deus ex Pianoforte said:Speaking as an AFC, my personal reasons lie in an overbearing mother, and pervasive teasing and harassment throughout school which fed my insecurities further.
that's nice armchair psychology, but it's not always that simple.backbreaker said:a man that is smart enough to understand the underlying problems for being the way he is, is smart enough to fix them, therefore in the end has no one to blame but himself
Master Bates said:that's nice armchair psychology, but it's not always that simple.
I'd mostly blame the feminization of our society, and the demonization of masculinity. It doesn't help that boys aren't raised by men anymore (even if they have a father).
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Most of us here in this forum are the kids of the eighties, we all grew up watching TV.
And TV taught us how to be AFC's, watching news, shows and movies.
When TV is your only source of information about the world, you become molded to whatever "they" want you to do or act.
If "they" want you to be Afraid of a certain group people, then they create more shows to make you afraid and angry.
Parents also take responsibility for allowing this influence there own kids, while at the same time they are being influenced as well.
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