Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
What is responsible for turning guys in AFC
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
backbreaker
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
backbreaker
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Deus ex Pianoforte said:Speaking as an AFC, my personal reasons lie in an overbearing mother, and pervasive teasing and harassment throughout school which fed my insecurities further.
a man that is smart enough to understand the underlying problems for being the way he is, is smart enough to fix them, therefore in the end has no one to blame but himself
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that's nice armchair psychology, but it's not always that simple.backbreaker said:a man that is smart enough to understand the underlying problems for being the way he is, is smart enough to fix them, therefore in the end has no one to blame but himself
I'd mostly blame the feminization of our society, and the demonization of masculinity. It doesn't help that boys aren't raised by men anymore (even if they have a father).
Luthor Rex
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Master Bates said:that's nice armchair psychology, but it's not always that simple.
I'd mostly blame the feminization of our society, and the demonization of masculinity. It doesn't help that boys aren't raised by men anymore (even if they have a father).
I agree... just because you know what the problem is doesn't mean you know how to fix it.
Of course there are also a lot of people who, if they can't find an imediate solution, just give up.
On top of that, even if you do know the solution it may take years to fix the problem. It's like being fat: a person doesn't get fat overnight and they won't get in shape overnight either.
No longer are we threatened by lions and no longer must we come face-to-face with zebras to alleviate our daily anxiety of where our next meal will come. When you see people pray before a meal, remember the ritual originated from literally having to be thankful to some imaginary god for allowing you to have food. Lifespans have astronomically soared thanks to the marvels of modern medicine. Also, for the most part, we also no longer face wars, foreign invasions, and the Klu Kux Klan. Instead, now, our society freaks out when a serial killer murders a handful of people out of milions, over years, which is horrible but nothing compared to threats of the past. Turn on the television news and there's amost always some new scare-of-the-week. I wouldn't be suprised if next week it's "dangerous" to sit in a chair.
With most threats sanitized, naturally society would then turn towards postmodern philosophy and systematically question the validity of gender roles, both biologically and interpersonally/socially. 'Why are guys be such asswholes?" "Why can't women have career and family life?" Naturally, androgyny arises.
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And TV taught us how to be AFC's, watching news, shows and movies.
When TV is your only source of information about the world, you become molded to whatever "they" want you to do or act.
If "they" want you to be Afraid of a certain group people, then they create more shows to make you afraid and angry.
Parents also take responsibility for allowing this influence there own kids, while at the same time they are being influenced as well.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
backbreaker
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Most of us here in this forum are the kids of the eighties, we all grew up watching TV.
And TV taught us how to be AFC's, watching news, shows and movies.
When TV is your only source of information about the world, you become molded to whatever "they" want you to do or act.
If "they" want you to be Afraid of a certain group people, then they create more shows to make you afraid and angry.
Parents also take responsibility for allowing this influence there own kids, while at the same time they are being influenced as well.
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But if you are smart enough to realize this, and you still watch countless of hours of TV and do nothign about it.. who is really at fault? TV?
ValleyDJing
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Guys are born, and if they're parents are married while growing up...they see the AFC festival that is marraige day in and day out. And most kids who's parents are split up, grow up with their mom's (who are all tired of the ******* players, thus they brainwash their sons into thinking AFC is the way to go).
The parental situation is coupled with movies and tv shows which depict the hopeless chump males trying desperately to keep the all-knowing, almighty goddesses happy. Finally, we are bombarded with a calendar filled with all manner of what can best be described as, "Kiss Somebody's Ass, Be Nice, and Buy People ****" days. Valentines, Mother's Day, Father's Day, Christmas, Thanksgiving, and birthdays.