"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What is responsible for turning guys in AFC
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
Deus ex Pianoforte said:Speaking as an AFC, my personal reasons lie in an overbearing mother, and pervasive teasing and harassment throughout school which fed my insecurities further.
a man that is smart enough to understand the underlying problems for being the way he is, is smart enough to fix them, therefore in the end has no one to blame but himself
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that's nice armchair psychology, but it's not always that simple.backbreaker said:a man that is smart enough to understand the underlying problems for being the way he is, is smart enough to fix them, therefore in the end has no one to blame but himself
I'd mostly blame the feminization of our society, and the demonization of masculinity. It doesn't help that boys aren't raised by men anymore (even if they have a father).
Luthor Rex
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Master Bates said:that's nice armchair psychology, but it's not always that simple.
I'd mostly blame the feminization of our society, and the demonization of masculinity. It doesn't help that boys aren't raised by men anymore (even if they have a father).
I agree... just because you know what the problem is doesn't mean you know how to fix it.
Of course there are also a lot of people who, if they can't find an imediate solution, just give up.
On top of that, even if you do know the solution it may take years to fix the problem. It's like being fat: a person doesn't get fat overnight and they won't get in shape overnight either.
No longer are we threatened by lions and no longer must we come face-to-face with zebras to alleviate our daily anxiety of where our next meal will come. When you see people pray before a meal, remember the ritual originated from literally having to be thankful to some imaginary god for allowing you to have food. Lifespans have astronomically soared thanks to the marvels of modern medicine. Also, for the most part, we also no longer face wars, foreign invasions, and the Klu Kux Klan. Instead, now, our society freaks out when a serial killer murders a handful of people out of milions, over years, which is horrible but nothing compared to threats of the past. Turn on the television news and there's amost always some new scare-of-the-week. I wouldn't be suprised if next week it's "dangerous" to sit in a chair.
With most threats sanitized, naturally society would then turn towards postmodern philosophy and systematically question the validity of gender roles, both biologically and interpersonally/socially. 'Why are guys be such asswholes?" "Why can't women have career and family life?" Naturally, androgyny arises.
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And TV taught us how to be AFC's, watching news, shows and movies.
When TV is your only source of information about the world, you become molded to whatever "they" want you to do or act.
If "they" want you to be Afraid of a certain group people, then they create more shows to make you afraid and angry.
Parents also take responsibility for allowing this influence there own kids, while at the same time they are being influenced as well.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
Most of us here in this forum are the kids of the eighties, we all grew up watching TV.
And TV taught us how to be AFC's, watching news, shows and movies.
When TV is your only source of information about the world, you become molded to whatever "they" want you to do or act.
If "they" want you to be Afraid of a certain group people, then they create more shows to make you afraid and angry.
Parents also take responsibility for allowing this influence there own kids, while at the same time they are being influenced as well.
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But if you are smart enough to realize this, and you still watch countless of hours of TV and do nothign about it.. who is really at fault? TV?
ValleyDJing
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Guys are born, and if they're parents are married while growing up...they see the AFC festival that is marraige day in and day out. And most kids who's parents are split up, grow up with their mom's (who are all tired of the ******* players, thus they brainwash their sons into thinking AFC is the way to go).
The parental situation is coupled with movies and tv shows which depict the hopeless chump males trying desperately to keep the all-knowing, almighty goddesses happy. Finally, we are bombarded with a calendar filled with all manner of what can best be described as, "Kiss Somebody's Ass, Be Nice, and Buy People ****" days. Valentines, Mother's Day, Father's Day, Christmas, Thanksgiving, and birthdays.