"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I never called her after the first one until last week. The date was ok, she talked a lot about her ex boyfriends, said most of her friends are guys, told me some wild stories of her partying. We had a good conversation going most of the night, no real akward silences, but i couldn't pick up if she is interested or not. SHE DID SAY THAT that she is not looking for a relationship right now cuz she had a tough one end in the fall. That seems like a red flag to me.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i wish it was that easy...she seemed like all of her wild crzy partying is behind her, and she learned her lessons, so i don't think hit and quit it will work with this girl.
 
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"she talked a lot about her ex boyfriends"......

"told me some wild stories of her partying".....

"SHE DID SAY THAT that she is not looking for a relationship right now"....

"she thanked me for the dinner (which I paid for), smiled, and left"...

"What is confusing is why she would go out with me after such a long time of not being in touch? Should I persue this or just move on to another girl?"
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Her EX-BFs gave her a thrill-a-minute and she was every which way and loose with them. You (on the other hand) are a "nice" safe guy who paid her dinner (yes, all girls love being taken to a nice restaurant), listened to her attentively like a therapist, and dropped her off with a handshake (?). Very respectful of you. Don't be surprised if she does keep in touch with you and wants you as a "friend only".
 
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well I don't want to be as cynical as THE RAKE but I share some of his comments on this girl.

"talking about ex-boyfriends" = red flag number #1
, would you talk about your ex-girlfriends in front of a girl you were planning to date or dating initially?

"says most of her friends are guys" = red flag number #2, a well rounded person will either have mostly friends of the same gender or have an equal amount of genders. a person who has a huge ego will not get along with someone of the same gender.

"she is not looking for a relationship right now" = red flag #3, when a girl says that outloud it means she doesn't want anything serious with you.

she probably contacted you cause she has no one else to contact and finds you a 'nice guy' to keep her company for awhile. you got 3 strikes and you're out.

oh yeah, NEXT HER!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I think you guys are right, but i dunno if acting like ass would have made me more attractive to her, since it looks like she has been in a relationship with a guy who cheated on her before. Have any of you had a girl you went out with who actually answered her cell phone calls during the date and then agreed to see you again?
I think that pretty much seals the deal, if a girl is interested i would imagine she would not answere her cell while on a date with you. But may be i'm over analyzing here.
 
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I would have told her you dont want to hear about her exs and if she kept doing it I would have told her that I had to go.
 
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Originally posted by DimaDrill
I think you guys are right, but i dunno if acting like ass would have made me more attractive to her, since it looks like she has been in a relationship with a guy who cheated on her before. Have any of you had a girl you went out with who actually answered her cell phone calls during the date and then agreed to see you again?
I think that pretty much seals the deal, if a girl is interested i would imagine she would not answere her cell while on a date with you. But may be i'm over analyzing here.
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uh, why wouldn't she answer her cell? if it's important or pertains to the event at hand i don't care. however if she's on a social call - she better cut that sh1t out within a minute.
 
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I just think taking calls during a date is like talking on the phone in the movie theater, it is kinda disrespectful.
 
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"says most of her friends are guys" = red flag number #2, a well rounded person will either have mostly friends of the same gender or have an equal amount of genders. a person who has a huge ego will not get along with someone of the same gender.
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I knew that was a big red flag, but that ego thing didnt even occur to me. wow.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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