"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What is love ?

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Stugots26

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Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more... :crackup:

Sorry, had to...
 

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Not sure if you're looking for an answer, but I'll just leave this here. I have learned a lot in the last 10 years. And one of those things was the true definition of love. Love anymore by society's terms is "Lust". True love as our souls yearn for is a reciprocated investment in the betterment of each other. Thus "If you love something let it go, if it comes back it was meant to be."

And that's where the concept of unbreakable love comes from. If your girl has your back so tightly that her main goal in life is to see you grow and become better, there's no way in hades she'll be sneaking bs around behind your back. If she is, well, then it's not true love by that definition anymore, is it? ;)

@stugots: Kudos! haha :p
 

JohnyTheArrow

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I love love but it isnt that simple.What is expected often - a sacrifice from a male side including life but it rarerly comes from the female side.The are endless stories about men sacrificing everything for female even life - but there is very little stories about females doing same.Man had more value before, now , until he rich,famous,beautiful he is so totally disposable.Over thrirty single mom, if she is still attractive, can go online and she will have hundrends men fighting for her.There is no reason for female to give you 'love' when you have so many people fighting for you and willing to replace your mate.Thats why love has been replaced by lust.There is no time for love.

Love doesn't exists until it is tested in extreme situations.If your love isnt tested - you shouldnt considered you are being loved.
 

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My point exactly...I had to learn it the hard way.. the way you described and unfortunately 99% of us will have to as well. At least it seems to be reciprocated in those drawings.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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RangerMIke

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Love is nothing more than the release of oxytocin. There is nothing magical about it. As long as you as a man can continue to get her to release oxytocin then she will stay with you.

Evolution created oxytocin to over ride our natural instinct of self preservation. Animals that didn't develop "love" connections with familiy or clans died off.
 

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Not sure if you're looking for an answer, but I'll just leave this here. I have learned a lot in the last 10 years. And one of those things was the true definition of love. Love anymore by society's terms is "Lust". True love as our souls yearn for is a reciprocated investment in the betterment of each other. Thus "If you love something let it go, if it comes back it was meant to be."

And that's where the concept of unbreakable love comes from. If your girl has your back so tightly that her main goal in life is to see you grow and become better, there's no way in hades she'll be sneaking bs around behind your back. If she is, well, then it's not true love by that definition anymore, is it? ;)

@stugots: Kudos! haha :p
Does this even really exist anymore? Love to me is more like a family of wolves sharing a den together. Maybe a moments peace between the fighting for a scrap of flesh from yesterdays meal can be enjoyed at most. Never been in a relationship where I have not had to fight to be considered and respected.
 
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