"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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What is love to you?

marmel75

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What's love got to do with it?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I refuse the word "love", because everybody is talking about a different thing when they say it. "Love" is just a word that confused people use to describe their feelings, without knowing what the hell is happening. And that's ok, but I find it mind-boggling that people are often trying to discuss this on a scientific level. Ask any girl if there's a difference between "being in love", "feeling love" and "true love". Or better, don't.

Might as well do away with the word, and use more direct words to describe what you are feeling.
Affection, attraction, sexual attraction, loyalty, partnership, safety, power, etc.
 

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It's difficult to say because words are like vessels which carry their meaning within a context. You can not pin them down. That's why there is so much love poetry. Because in poetry, we use words loosely, and in novel combinations, in order to maximize meaning.

A warm summer evening,
A cool breeze on the air,
When before me a daughter
Of Aphrodite appeared
Silkily clad in the colour of sunset
Fluttering about fixed starry eyes,
Which drew me in a moving orbit,
Where we circled like twin stars in the night.
 

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It's difficult to say because words are like vessels which carry their meaning within a context. You can not pin them down. That's why there is so much love poetry. Because in poetry, we use words loosely in order to maximize meaning.

A warm summer evening,
A cool breeze on the air,
When before me a daughter
Of Aphrodite appeared
Silkily clad in the colour of sunset
Fluttering about fixed starry eyes,
Which drew me in a moving orbit,
Where we circled like twin stars in the night.
Do you think pink is a masculine color?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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One more thing that irks me: Most discussions about love implicate some sort of peer pressure that you can only be a good person if you "love", whatever that is. People twist their thoughts and actions in horrible ways, just to convince themselves that they conform to the ideal. For that reason alone I say to hell with it.

I'll go with "Strong affection" without any further interpretation.
 

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God is Love.
 
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