"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What is love to you?

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What's love got to do with it?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I refuse the word "love", because everybody is talking about a different thing when they say it. "Love" is just a word that confused people use to describe their feelings, without knowing what the hell is happening. And that's ok, but I find it mind-boggling that people are often trying to discuss this on a scientific level. Ask any girl if there's a difference between "being in love", "feeling love" and "true love". Or better, don't.

Might as well do away with the word, and use more direct words to describe what you are feeling.
Affection, attraction, sexual attraction, loyalty, partnership, safety, power, etc.
 

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It's difficult to say because words are like vessels which carry their meaning within a context. You can not pin them down. That's why there is so much love poetry. Because in poetry, we use words loosely, and in novel combinations, in order to maximize meaning.

A warm summer evening,
A cool breeze on the air,
When before me a daughter
Of Aphrodite appeared
Silkily clad in the colour of sunset
Fluttering about fixed starry eyes,
Which drew me in a moving orbit,
Where we circled like twin stars in the night.
 

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It's difficult to say because words are like vessels which carry their meaning within a context. You can not pin them down. That's why there is so much love poetry. Because in poetry, we use words loosely in order to maximize meaning.

A warm summer evening,
A cool breeze on the air,
When before me a daughter
Of Aphrodite appeared
Silkily clad in the colour of sunset
Fluttering about fixed starry eyes,
Which drew me in a moving orbit,
Where we circled like twin stars in the night.
Do you think pink is a masculine color?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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One more thing that irks me: Most discussions about love implicate some sort of peer pressure that you can only be a good person if you "love", whatever that is. People twist their thoughts and actions in horrible ways, just to convince themselves that they conform to the ideal. For that reason alone I say to hell with it.

I'll go with "Strong affection" without any further interpretation.
 

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God is Love.
 
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